THE BIG LEAP Moving Up with My Child October 5, 2013 2 nd floor Conference Room
Oct 19, 2014
THE BIG LEAPMoving Up with My Child
October 5, 2013
2nd floor Conference Room
YOUR 5th/6th GraderWho are They and What Can They Do
General expectation for 5th and 6th graders
DOING
A GOOD JOB
“All learning has emotional base.”
Plato 2200 years
ago
Consider these worldwide statistics…
Impulsive boys are 3 to 6 times as likely to be violent as
adolescents and impulsive girls are 3 times more likely to get
pregnant in adolescence (Block, Marshmallow Test Result, 1995)
Low levels of empathy are associated with poor school achievement
(Norwicki and Duke, 1992)
Students who are anxious or depressed earn lower grades and more likely to
repeat a grade
(Kovick & Baatraens, 1994)
Children who are able to delay gratification are more popular, earn better grades, and had an average of 210 more on their
SAT’s
(Shoda, Mischel and Peake, 1990)
Social and Emotional Learning (SEL)
is the process through which we learn to:
recognize and manage emotionsmake good decisionscare about othersbehave ethically and responsibly
GOALS OF SEL
I am…Knowledgeable
I will…Responsible
I can..Capable
I care…Caring
SELF SOCIAL
AWARENESS
MANAGEMENT
SELF – AWARENESS
I am aware of what I am feeling.• Distinguish among intensity levels of their emotions.• Describe how they physically respond to emotion.• Recognize and label emotions and discuss how they
are linked to behavior.
I am aware of my traits, know what I do well, and know what areas I can work on.
• Describe the personal qualities they possess that make them successful members of their school community.
• Describe and prioritize personal skills and interests that they want to develop.
SELF – AWARENESS
I am aware of the supports I have around me.• Recognize qualities of positive role models.• Identify positive adults in various facets of their lives.• Identify peer, home, and school resources they can
access to help solve problems.
I am aware of and accept my responsibilities.• Choose to do school work/chores without being
reminded.• Define what it means to be responsible and can
identify things for which they are responsible.• Explain the benefits of being responsible.
SELF – MANAGEMENT I can manage my emotions in a way that is
constructive and appropriate.• Use self-monitoring strategies (self-talk) to regulate
emotions.• Show skills in handling pressure situations (e.g. calm down,
walk away, seek help or mediation).• Demonstrate an ability to present their own perspective (I-
messages).
I can act in an honest manner.• Show willingness to tell the truth in a difficult situation, while
honoring personal boundaries.• Identify reasons why honesty is a valued trait.• Analyze the outcomes of dishonesty.
SELF – MANAGEMENT I can make good decisions.• Describe the steps of a decision-making model.• Generate alternative solutions to problems and predict
possible outcomes.• Effectively participate in group decision-making processes.
I can set and achieve goals that will help me to be successful.
• Describe why participating in their education is important in helping them achieve personal goals.
• Describe the steps in setting and working toward goal achievement.
• Evaluate what they might have done differently to achieve greater success on a recent goal.
• Distinguish between long term and short term goals.
SOCIAL AWARENESSI care about the feelings and viewpoints of others.• Predict how their own behavior affects the emotions of
others.• Define the terms perspective/point of view.• Use listening skills to identify the feelings/perspectives of
others.
I care about others and do my part to make my community better.
• Describe what they learned about themselves in helping out others.
• Identify roles they have that contribute to their school, home, and neighboring community.
• Work together with peers to address a need.
SOCIAL AWARENESS
I care about and respect the individual differences of others.
• Identify contributions of various types of persons.• Recognize that people from different social backgrounds
share many things in common.• Define stereotyping, discrimination, and prejudice.
I care about how I perceive others and how they perceive me.
• Describe tone and how it is used to communicate to others.• Describe the impact of body language and facial expressions
in communication.• Develop awareness that social cues may be different among
various groups.
SOCIAL MANAGEMENTI will interact well with others.• Give and receive compliments in a genuine manner.• Use attentive listening skills to foster better communication.• Demonstrate good sportsmanship.• Demonstrate cooperative behaviors in a group (e.g. listen,
encourage, acknowledge opinions, compromise, reach consensus).
I will work on having constructive relationships.• Recognize the difference between positive and negative
relationships.• Understand the difference between safe and risky behaviors in
a relationship.• Identify a problem in a relationship and seek appropriate
assistance.
SOCIAL MANAGEMENTI will deal with interpersonal conflicts
constructively.• Show an understanding of conflict as a natural
part of life.• Describe causes and effects of conflicts.• Distinguish between destructive and
constructive ways of dealing with conflict.• Activate the steps of a conflict resolution
process (listen, express feelings, discuss solutions, make amends, etc.)
What can you do now
Motivating Your Child To Achieve
The desire to do things..
a driving force behind one’s growth & success.
A motivated child is likely to…• handle any task, no matter how difficult• begin tasks without having to be prodded• show serious effort & concentration• have a positive attitude toward learning & school
work• use coping strategies to get through rough times• stick with tasks until completion
A child who is NOT motivated is likely to…
• choose work that is easy• need lots of prodding to get started• put in minimal effort• show negative or apathetic attitude about learning &
school work• give up quickly when the going gets rough• leave many tasks unfinished
What Dampens Motivation?
Fear of failure Lack of understanding the school work Frustration with inconsistent performance Emotional problems Desire for attention– even negative
attention
School is boring I’m
done!
I don’t care
about math
I’m stupid ,
Why try?
What Fires Motivation?
Kids will be self-motivated to learn when they
feel loved and respectedfeel competent about something have some choice and control over
learning
simple ways to help your child to be
motivated
Set proper expectation
Talk kindly and honestly to your child about her interest and abilities.
Share your OPINION based on your OBSERVATION
Have an agreement
Set appropriate expectations by:
Communicate with your child
Re-evaluate as necessary
review your expectation with your child
make adjustments and make sure both you and your child agree about the expectations.
Help your child
Write the goals down.
Make the goals
specific
Make the goals
measurable
Show your child you think school is important
Maintaining a relationship with your
child’s teacher
Supporting the programs at your child’s
school.
Creating a suitable environment
Keeping up with your child’s assignments
Staying positive about school and schoolwork.
Support your child’s learning style
VISUAL LEARNER
learns best by seeing and watching
BASIC LEARNING CHARACTERISTICS OF VISUALLEARNERS
• is good in spelling• can easily
remember faces and names in print
• creates mental photos/good at imagining things
• Reads rapidly• Learns to spell words in
configurations rather than phonetically
• Is sensitive to colors/pictures• Learns well upon demonstrations• Likes to take notes and to make
lists to be read later
AUDITORY LEARNER
learns best by listening and talking.
BASIC LEARNING CHARACTERISTICS OF AN AUDITORY LEARNERS
• have a good understanding of meaning and order of words
• good at verbalizing concepts• good at telling stories
• has good memory for names but tends to forget faces
• tends to spell phonetically• notices easily sounds in his/her
environment• probably has ten excuses for
everything• subvocalizes internally or externally
for comprehension when reading
KINESTHETIC LEARNER
learns best by doing and feeling.
BASIC LEARNING CHARACTERISTICS OF A KINESTHETIC LEARNERS
• Is a mover• often writes everything –
over and over• Is better at recalling what is
done than what is heard or seen
• Is good at sports or other physical exercises
• likes to make something out of paper
• reads action-oriented books
Speak the language of encouragement
Praise:• Discusses results. “Great workon the science quiz! You got an
A!”• Uses opinion words such as“good,” “great,” “terrific,” and
“wonderful.” • Is typically given when the child
has performed as
Encouragement:
• Notices effort and progress. • Uses descriptive words.
• Can be given regardless of thechild’s performance.
Reinforce learning at home and in the Community
• Expand your child’s point of view• Get your child into the habit of reading.
Encourage your child to be resilient
Qualities Needed:• Strong belief that an adult will always be there
with love and support• Ability to solve their own problems• Ability to focus on their own strengths• Regard mistakes as something that happens to
everyone & something to learn from
What to Do:
• Empathize with your child• Provide your child with reasonable
choices• Change your approach when it clearly
doesn’t work• Support your child’s interests & talents