THE BIG LEAP - with SEL (Gr7 & Gr9)

THE BIG LEAPMoving Up with My Child

November 16, 2013

2nd floor Conference Room

General expectation for 7th and 8th graders

Knowing one’s self

“All learning has emotional base.”

Plato 2200 years

ago

Students who are anxious or depressed earn lower grades and more likely to

repeat a grade

(Kovick & Baatraens, 1994)

Children who are able to delay gratification are more popular, earn better grades, and had an average of 210 more on their

SAT’s

(Shoda, Mischel and Peake, 1990)

Impulsive boys are 3 to 6 times as likely to be violent as

adolescents and impulsive girls are 3 times more likely to get

pregnant in adolescence (Block, Marshmallow Test Result, 1995)

Social and Emotional Learning (SEL)

is the process through which we learn to:

recognize and manage emotionsmake good decisionscare about othersbehave ethically and responsibly

GOALS OF SEL

I am…Knowledgeable

I will…Responsible

I can..Capable

I care…Caring

SELF SOCIAL

AWARENESS

MANAGEMENT

SELF – AWARENESS

I am aware of what I am feeling.• Recognize negative emotions as indicators of situation in need of

attention.• Analyze emotional states that contribute to or distract their ability to

solve problem. • Explain the possible outcomes associated with different forms of

communicating emotions.

I am aware of my traits, know what I do well, and know what areas I can work on.

• Analyze how personal qualities and temperaments influence choices and success.

• Apply self-reflection techniques to recognize their strengths, weaknesses and potentials.

• Implement a plan to build on strengths, meet a need, or address a challenge.

SELF – AWARENESS

I am aware of the supports I have around me.• Have awareness of where to go for support when in need. • Evaluate the benefits of participating in extra curricular

activities.• Recognize outside influences on the development of personal

characteristics and discern whether those influences are supportive or non-supportive.

I am aware of and accept my responsibilities.• Identify the areas of school and life that are within their

control.• Analyze the short and long term outcomes of safe, risky

and harmful behaviors.• Define their responsibility for the outcomes involved in

safe, risky and harmful behaviors.

I am…Knowledgeable

I will…Responsible

I can..Capable

I care…Caring

SELF SOCIAL

AWARENESS

MANAGEMENT

SELF – MANAGEMENT I can manage my emotions in a way that is

constructive and appropriate.• Apply strategies (self-talk) to regulate emotions.• Reflect on possible consequences, both positive

and negative, before expressing an emotion.• Generate ways to develop positive attitudes.

I can act in an honest manner.• Activate personal integrity as a tool to resists

negative peer pressure. • Evaluate how honesty contributes to lifelong

success and building relationship.

SELF – MANAGEMENT I can make good decisions.• Identify and apply the steps of systematic

decision-making.• Evaluate strategies for avoiding risky behavior.

I can set and achieve goals that will help me to be successful.• Apply goal-setting skills to promote academic

success.• Set a positive social interaction goal.• Demonstrate goal-setting skills relating to potential

career paths.

I am…Knowledgeable

I will…Responsible

I can..Capable

I care…Caring

SELF SOCIAL

AWARENESS

MANAGEMENT

SOCIAL AWARENESSI care about the feelings and viewpoints of

others.• Analyze ways their behavior may affect the

feelings of others and adjust accordingly.• Provide support and encouragement to others in

need.• Show respect for other people’s perspective.

I care about others and do my part to make my community better.• Explain how their decisions and behaviors affect

the well being of their school and community.

SOCIAL AWARENESS

I care about and respect the individual differences of others.

• Analyze how people of different groups can help one another and enjoy each other’s company.

• Explain how individual, social, and cultural differences may increase vulnerability to stereotyping and identify ways to address this.

I care about how I perceive others and how they perceive me.• Analyze social situations and appropriate responses to

those situations.• Recognize the personal boundaries of themselves and

others.

I am…Knowledgeable

I will…Responsible

I can..Capable

I care…Caring

SELF SOCIAL

AWARENESS

MANAGEMENT

SOCIAL MANAGEMENTI will interact well with others.• Demonstrate an ability to both assume leadership and be a

team player in achieving group goals.• Differentiate between passive, assertive and aggressive

responses. • Practice reflective listening.

I will work on having constructive relationships.• Distinguish between positive and negative peer pressure

and demonstrate strategies of resisting negative peer pressure.

• Involve themselves in positive activities with their peer group.

• Demonstrate ability to be true to personal values when choosing friendships.

SOCIAL MANAGEMENTI will deal with interpersonal conflicts

constructively.• Identify the roles of individuals in conflict and

understand their responsibility in reaching resolution.

• Apply conflict skills to de-escalate, defuse and resolve differences.

• Identify how all parties in conflict might get their needs met (win-win)

• Identify positive supports to go to in a conflict situation/crisis.

What can you do now?

Motivating Your Child To Achieve

“It’s not that I’m so smart. It’s just that I stay with problems longer.”

-Albert Einstein-

The desire to do things..

a driving force behind one’s growth & success.

A motivated child is likely to…• handle any task, no matter how difficult• begin tasks without having to be prodded• show serious effort & concentration• have a positive attitude toward learning & school

work• use coping strategies to get through rough times• stick with tasks until completion

A child who is NOT motivated is likely to…

• choose work that is easy• need lots of prodding to get started• put in minimal effort• show negative or apathetic attitude about learning &

school work• give up quickly when the going gets rough• leave many tasks unfinished

What Dampens Motivation?

Fear of failure Lack of understanding the school work Frustration with inconsistent performance Emotional problems Desire for attention– even negative

attention

School is boring I’m

done!

I don’t care

about math

I’m stupid ,

Why try?

What Fires Motivation?

Kids will be self-motivated to learn when they

feel loved and respectedfeel competent about something have some choice and control over

learning

simple ways to help your child to be

motivated

Set proper expectation

Talk kindly and honestly to your child about her interest and abilities.

Share your OPINION based on your OBSERVATION

Have an agreement

Set appropriate expectations by:

Communicate with your child

Re-evaluate as necessary

review your expectation with your child

make adjustments and make sure both you and your child agree about the expectations.

Help your child

Write the goals down.

Make the goals

specific

Make the goals

measurable

Show your child you think school is important

Maintaining a relationship with your

child’s teacher

Supporting the programs at your child’s

school.

Creating a suitable environment

Keeping up with your child’s assignments

Staying positive about school and schoolwork.

Support your child’s learning style

LEARNING STYLE

is a distinct way of how a person acquires and remembers information

VISUAL LEARNER

learns best by seeing and watching

BASIC LEARNING CHARACTERISTICS OF VISUALLEARNERS

• is good in spelling• can easily

remember faces and names in print

• creates mental photos/good at imagining things

• Reads rapidly• Learns to spell words in

configurations rather than phonetically

• Is sensitive to colors/pictures• Learns well upon demonstrations• Likes to take notes and to make

lists to be read later

AUDITORY LEARNER

learns best by listening and talking.

BASIC LEARNING CHARACTERISTICS OF AN AUDITORY LEARNERS

• have a good understanding of meaning and order of words

• good at verbalizing concepts• good at telling stories

• has good memory for names but tends to forget faces

• tends to spell phonetically• notices easily sounds in his/her

environment• probably has ten excuses for

everything• subvocalizes internally or externally

for comprehension when reading

KINESTHETIC LEARNER

learns best by doing and feeling.

BASIC LEARNING CHARACTERISTICS OF A KINESTHETIC LEARNERS

• Is a mover• often writes everything –

over and over• Is better at recalling what is

done than what is heard or seen

• Is good at sports or other physical exercises

• likes to make something out of paper

• reads action-oriented books

Speak the language of encouragement

Praise:• Discusses results. “Great workon the science quiz! You got an

A!”• Uses opinion words such as“good,” “great,” “terrific,” and

“wonderful.” • Is typically given when the child

has performed as

Encouragement:

• Notices effort and progress. • Uses descriptive words.

• Can be given regardless of thechild’s performance.

Reinforce learning at home and in the Community

• Expand your child’s point of view• Get your child into the habit of reading.

Encourage your child to be resilient

Qualities Needed:• Strong belief that an adult will always be there

with love and support• Ability to solve their own problems• Ability to focus on their own strengths• Regard mistakes as something that happens to

everyone & something to learn from

What to Do:

• Empathize with your child• Provide your child with reasonable

choices• Change your approach when it clearly

doesn’t work• Support your child’s interests & talents