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Feb 10, 2016




STRESS and ANXIETY. What is Stress?. Stress is a mismatch between the demands in our lives and the resources we have to deal with those demands. This mismatch is often caused by changes, either large or small Stress is not an event, but your reaction to the event. - PowerPoint PPT Presentation



Stress is a mismatch between the demands in our lives and the resources we have to deal with those demands.This mismatch is often caused by changes, either large or smallStress is not an event, but your reaction to the event

What is Stress?Pain, injury, and illnessDivorce or Financial Crisis of the familyDeath or loss of a loved one.

Major Causes of Stress for children

TestsHomeworkSchoolGrades Busy schedulesFights with friendsBulliesFamily problemsWanting to be like by othersWorries about world eventsTeam tryouts

Additional Stressors

Stress TestChildren respond by what they experienced in the past insignificant to adults, but small changes can impact a child's feelings of safety and security.Children's Responses to StressIts physical-fight or flight response, adrenaline.Our bodies are all geared up with nowhere to goif we do nothing we remain in a state of unproductive tension

Examples- Instant ReplaysLack of SleepIllness

What is Stress Made of?ITs Mental-Stress is not all in your head, but thats where you start-Events dont cause stress, its how you interpret and react to them


Stress CAN be GOOD!Most people work best under pressureIt can be a powerful source of growthWe often learn the most when we are forced to


Stress is HarmfulStress hurts when it becomes a way of lifeHeart disease, ulcers, cancer, anger, and drugs.


The Annoyance ListOverload AssessmentPersonality TypeHow much stress can you take by Dr. Thomas H. HolmesKids Love THEM!Brief Stress Tests

I have to be the best at everything Everyone must like meI Cannot make a mistakeIf someone disagrees with me, they dont like meI cant make a decision, because if its wrong, Ill regret it foreverThe embarrassment will NEVER endLife isnt fairIts just bad luck

Their beliefsCry more than usual, frequent, urination, grinding teeth, nightmares, BAD LUCKCant sleep/sleep moreEat MoreIrritability/overly sensitiveCaffeine/lack of food/change in dietManifestation of pain, migraines, obsessionsDifficulty focusing/constant motionDont feel like doing anything/lack of emotion


Of all the things weve worried about, how many came true.Multiply by 10 for a kid.Has this happened before, what did I learn, worst possible , scenario, 5 years from now, magic carpetPain bodyResponsibility


How do we cope? FlexibilityReceiving constructive criticism openlyDismissing negative attacksTaking control of your actions..accepting when YOU messed upTalking about it.I am really mad right now and its not your fault butBAD= DenialCOPINGProblems, Challenges, PossibilitiesIrrational statement-make it rationalMake Connections-OPRAH- people who feel lucky have friends, relatives, work colleagues..etc., Help your kids make those connectionsALWAYS remember kids model what YOU doChores can calm you downAnimals can be therapeutic tooWorry Jar

Make a listGet up earlyJournalDraw it, paint itDont put it offBe prepared to WaitKnow you wont get along with everyoneHelp SomeoneLaughListen to Music, take a bathForgive and forget the pastwe all mess upBreathe

Proven Stress ReducersVision BoardEXERCISE, EXERCISE, EXCERCISEPositive Self-TalkPeople and the Drama TriangleOne item a weekMotivation- Famous peopleLet them make decisions-codependency and its effectsThe POTPractice Saying, NO.Rewrite your script- 3 columns (would happen, reaction, self-talk)Know your Patterns/Triggers- poster (foods)THE SECRETSeeks help Sense of belonging at schoolLow levels of family stressSecure relationshipsAvoids negative peer pressureResilience

Consistent, dependable, scheduleMonitor TV and newsCalm Time- example- (compliments)Encourage your child to ask questions.Encourage expression of concerns, worries, or fears.Listen to your child without being critical.Affection and include them situations where he or she can succeed.Keep your child informed of necessary and anticipated changes such as changes in jobs or moving-TruthSeek professional help or advice when signs of stress do not decrease or disappear.

Ways You Can HelpMrs. Gail Hague-Duquesne UniversityStress can Really Get on Your Nerves! By Trevor Romain & Elizabeth VerdickMore Stuff to Help Kids Chill Out- The Anger and Stress Management Book By Jerry Wilde, PHDJayne M. Treinen-Yager and Geoffrey Yager, PHDs- University of Cincinnati