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Page 1: Solution-Oriented Spirituality: Drawing on Spiritual ... · Solution-Oriented Spirituality: Drawing on Spiritual Resources in Therapy and Changework to Get Better Results; Bill O’Hanlon,

Solution-Oriented Spirituality: Drawing on Spiritual Resources in Therapy and Changework to

Get Better Results;Bill O’Hanlon, M.S.

www.GetYourBookWritten.com

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Breathing Soul Back Into TherapyFor a free copy of these PowerPoint slides, visit:

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Spirituality and Psychotherapy

Psyche=Soul [Greek]Therapy=Nurse/cure [Greek]

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Blocks to using spiritual resources and sensibilities in counseling and

therapy

Freud’s legacy of negativity towards religion Behaviorism’s “black box” approach Restraints from our training Religious traumas that bias us away from

using spiritual resources Fear of imposing our values and beliefs on

people Not knowing how to bring it in in an effective

or non-impositional way

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Solution-Oriented Spirituality

Experiential exercise

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Accessing Spiritual Resources

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The 3 Cs of Spirituality

ConnectionCompassionContribution

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Connection

To something biggerwithin and beyond the

person

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Pathways to Connection

1Self

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Pathways to Connection

2Body

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Pathways to Connection

3Another

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Pathways to Connection

4Others

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Pathways to Connection

5Nature

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Connection to Nature

Children diagnosed with ADHD were more calm, more focused

and more able to follow directions after spending time in a

“green” setting like a park or backyard.

Frances E. Kuo and Andrea Faber Taylor, A Potential Natural Treatment for

Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder: Evidence From a National Study,

American Journal of Public Health, Sep. 2004; 94: 1580 - 1586

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Connection to Nature➢ Post-operative patients with rooms overlooking deciduous trees healed

more quickly and had less need for pain medication than patients who

viewed a brick wall.

➢ Dental patients who stared at a large mural of a natural scene had lower

blood pressure and less anxiety than those who didn’t.

➢ Inmates whose cell windows face the prison yard made 24% more sick-

call visits than those whose cells looked outward on rolling farmland and

trees.

Frumkin, Howard, American Journal of Preventative Medicine, 20(3), 2001

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Pathways to Connection

6Art

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Pathways to Connection

7Something

Bigger

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Pathways to ConnectionPersonal

!Core self!Body

Interpersonal!Another being!Community/groups

Transpersonal!Nature!Art!Higher power/bigger meaning/God

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Assessing the 7 pathways➢ How do you typically connect to something bigger within or beyond you?➢ How do you connect with your deeper self or soul?➢ How do you connect with or get in touch with your body?➢ How do you connect deeply with others?➢ What places or times in nature are the best for you?➢ What is your favorite art form or activity?➢ What are the times and ways you have felt the most expansive?➢ What music has touched your soul the most deeply?➢ If you were to create a spiritual retreat, where would it be located?➢ What book would you say has most touched your soul?➢ Who do you feel most connected to?➢ What group do you feel most a part of?

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Personal, Interpersonal and Transpersonal Connections

Personal

Interpersonal

Transpersonal

God

Higher powerUniverse

Another

Community

Family

Body

Soul

CosmicConsciousness

Brahman

AllahGreat Spirit

Nature Tao

Goddess

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Spirituality Assessment in Therapy

• Past• Present• Future

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Spiritual History/Background

➢ Have you ever had religious or spiritual beliefs or practices?➢ What have been your religious affiliations, if any?➢ Have those been helpful in any way?➢ Harmful in any way?➢ Any traumas connected with religion?➢ Have you ever felt connected to something more than yourself, like nature, another person, humanity, the Universe, God, etc.?➢ When or how?➢ What has been your most profound spiritual experience, if any?

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Spiritual History/Background

➢ What did each of your parents teach you or show you about religion or spirituality?➢ Who else, if anyone, influenced you in regard to religion or spirituality?➢ If you ever went away from religion or spirituality and then returned, how did that happen?➢ What would you say is the single most profound experience of your life so far?➢ What was the period in your life when you most relied on religion, spirituality or faith for strength?➢ What did your family show you in the area of service or compassion?➢ What charitable or volunteer activities happened in your family?

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Compassion

Softening towards yourself and others

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Karen Armstrong on Compassion

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Compassion/Self-Compassion

People who are unable to forgive themselves or others also have an increased incidence of depression and callousness toward others.

Pargament, K.L., et al. (1998). Journal of Scientific Study of Religion, 37:710-724.

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CompassionFind contexts of compassion/self-compassion

(the solution-oriented approach) Ask about moments when the person softened toward themselves or someone else

Find another context (like being a friend, a child, or a client) that can access compassion

Ask the person how they would like to be treated if they have wronged someone

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Compassion

This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.

–Dalai Lama

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Contribution

Serving others and the world

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Contribution/Service

Mitzvah therapy

The African Violet Queen

Sol Gordon’s Abuse Victim

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Ghandi

The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.

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Albert Schweitzer

You must give something to your fellow men. Even if it is a little thing, do something for those who have need of help, something for which you get no pay but the privilege of giving. . . The only ones among you who will be really happy are those who will have sought and found how to serve.

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Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

Life's most persistent and urgent question is: What are you doing for others?

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The Talmud

The highest form of wisdom is kindness.

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ContributionIs there anywhere your client could be of service or make a contribution that

would help them make amends or heal wounds? Where do they give of themselves? If they had to name their most significant contribution to helping another

person or people, what would they say? If they had to name the cause that they feel most passionate about, what

would it be? Suggest your client become aware of some social injustice or victim

situation that moves or touches you. Every time your client experiences some recurrent problem, have them do

one thing to contribute to the relief of the victim’s suffering or to righting some social injustice. It may be writing a letter, making a donation of money or time to some charitable group, praying, or some other action you are moved to.

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W.H. Auden

We are all here on earth to help others; what on earth the others are here for I don’t know.

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The 3 Cs of Spirituality

• Connection• Compassion• Contribution

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1. Be a Fundamentalist – Make sure the Fun always comes before the mental. Realize that life is a situation comedy that will never be canceled. A laugh track has been provided, and the reason we are put in the material world is to get more material. Have a good laugh twice a day, and that will ensure regular hilarity.2. Remember that each of us have been given a special gift, just for entering – so you are already a winner!3. The most powerful tool on the planet today is Tell-A-Vision. That is where I tell a vision to you, and you tell a vision to me. That way, if we don’t like the programming we’re getting, we can simply change the channel.4. Life is like photography–you use the negative to develop. And, no matter what adversity you face, be reassured: Of course God loves you. He’s just not ready to make a commitment.5. It is true. As we go through life thinking heavy thoughts, thought particles tend to get caught between the ears, causing a condition called truth decay. So be sure to use mental floss twice a day. And when you’re tempted to practice tantrum yoga, remember what we teach in Swami’s Absurdiveness Training class: “Don’t get even, get odd.” 6. If we want world peace, we must let go of our attachments and truly live like nomads. That’s where I no mad at you, you no mad at me. That way, there’ll surely be nomadness on the planet. A little peace here, a little peace there, pretty soon all the peaces will fit together to make one big peace everywhere.

Swami Beyondadanda’s Guidelines for Enlightenment

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