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Perfection{ism}
an occupational hazard of giftedness
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Try as hard as we may for
PERFECTION
the net result of our labors is an
amazing variety
of imperfectness.
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We are surprised at
our own versatility in being able to
FAIL
in so many different ways.
~ Samuel McChord Crothers
What are some of the different
faces of perfectionism?
{According to Adelson & Wilson}
Academic Achiever
I must get
or the world will end.
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Aggravated Accuracy Assessors
exactness and fixation on redos
Risk Evaders
If I can't do it perfectly,
I won't even try.
Controlling Image Managers
I could have it if I wanted it.
{but I'm pretending I don't want it}
Procrastinating
Perfectionists
{I'm putting off
turning in my
work because a
zero for not
turning it in is
not as bad as
earning an 80}
Consequences of
Perfectionism
please note:
Perfection{ism}
isn't always a problem
it can be
healthy
{here's how to tell}
ask these
questions
does the child
receive
pleasure from
working hard?
are the child's
standards based on
personal desire
{as opposed to outside pressure}?
is the child
capable of
relaxing?
is the child's
work
mastery
{rather than grade} -
oriented?
the correct
answer to all
of these
questions is
{yes}
it can also be
{un}healthy
{here's how to tell}
ask yourself
these
questions
are the child's
feelings about
his/her effort based
on external
evaluations?
is the child
incapable of
relaxing or letting
go?
is the child
motivated by low
self-esteem?
is the child
unsatisfied with
even a high level of
effort?
the desirable answer
to these questions is
{no}
there is a difference between
perfection{ism}
and the pursuit of excellence
Thanks {I think}.
But now what?
here are some
{big} ideas
and specific techniques
{big}
Excellent is good enough
strategies
this
A-
A+
is as okay as
encourage
{excellence and mastery}
as opposed to
{perfection}
from 1 - 5 assign each task a level
1 just make sure it's done
{little pillows optional}
do your absolute best
5 {something really important's at stake}
perfectionists
think everything is
a five
when really most
tasks are about a
three.
{big}
What Ithaka has to teach us
is that it's not about getting there
It's the journey,
and it always was.
strategies
kids need to
develop these
traits
and they do that through reading
and hearing about people who
have them
Try...
Carol Dweck's Mindset Angela Duckworth's Grit Malcolm Gladwell's Outliers