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© 2008 National Multiple Sclerosis Society

Adapted, translated and reprinted by the Multiple Sclerosis Society ofCanada with the generous permission of the National Multiple SclerosisSociety (USA).

The National Multiple Sclerosis Society is proud to be a source ofinformation about multiple sclerosis. Our comments are based onprofessional advice, published experience and expert opinion but do notrepresent individual, therapeutic recommendation or prescription. Forspecific information and advice, consult a qualified physician.

by Rosalind C. Kalb, PhD

Canadian adaptation and editing: Nadia Pestrak

Further acknowledgements: Thanks to Jennifer Carstens,Dr. Paul O’Connor, and Kristy Tomcheski for their contributions.

Design and Publishing by: Greenwood Tamad Inc.

ISBN: 0-921323-87-5

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Multiple Sclerosis Society of Canada, 2008Legal Deposit –National Library of Canada

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COVER ARTWORKMary G. DunphyCalm Seas, acrylic on canvas

Mary G. Dunphy is an artist from Newfoundland.

“Like most people in our society I defined myself by the careerI had for many years. When MS forced me to discontinueworking outside the home I searched for new avenues toprovide that identity and I eventually turned to art. I find artand painting to be immensely fulfilling. Art gives me a newsense of purpose and a new way of looking at the worldaround me.”

Calm Seas is an example of realism painting and depicts theromance and serenity of the tall ships and in particular HMSBounty.

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Table of Contents

Common Emotional ReactionsInitial Reactions to the Diagnosis..........................................5Longer-Term Reactions ..........................................................7Family Members Have Feelings Too.....................................10

Common Emotional ChangesMood Swings ......................................................................11Depression...........................................................................12Uncontrollable Laughing and Crying ...................................14A Word about MS Medications and Mood ..........................15

The Role of StressWhat We Know – and Don’t Know – about Stress .............16Strategies for Managing Stress ...........................................18

Some Helpful Tips.............................................................18

ResourcesBooks ..................................................................................23Chat.....................................................................................24

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People living with multiple sclerosis (MS) experience manydifferent emotions over the course of the disease. Some ofthese are reactions to the stresses and challenges created bythis chronic, unpredictable illness, while others seem to besymptoms of MS itself. This booklet describes the range ofemotional reactions and changes that can occur and providesinformation for individuals with MS and their families on howto recognize, talk about, manage and learn from these feelings.

Common Emotional ReactionsNo two people or families living with MS react to the diseasein exactly the same way or face exactly the same challenges.Nevertheless, there are certain reactions that seem to be verycommon.

Initial Reactions to the Diagnosis

The diagnosis of multiple sclerosis (MS) may produce shock,disbelief, anger, fear, and denial – all of which are normal,predictable reactions to this kind of difficult news.

� Shock: For some people the news is so startling and puzzlingthat they simply cannot absorb it. It may take several daysor weeks for them to be able to think about next steps fordealing with this unwelcome intrusion in their lives.

� Fear: For those people who know very little about MS – orthose who have known someone with very progressive,disabling MS – the first reaction may be fear or even panic.They may be quick to assume the worst about their health,their life, and their future.

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� Anger: It isn’t at all unusual for people to feel angry andfrustrated by their diagnosis. Certainly no one asks to getMS, and many react with resentment to the unfairness ofbeing diagnosed. “Why me?” is the first question on manypeople’s minds.

� Relief: For anyone who has had to wait months or evenyears for an explanation of puzzling, uncomfortablesymptoms, getting the diagnosis can be a relief. Particularlyfor those people who were worried about having a braintumour or some other potentially fatal disease, thediagnosis of MS can feel like welcome news. The news mayalso provide relief for anyone who has been told, “There’snothing wrong with you – it’s all in your head.”

� Denial: Some people react to the diagnosis by shoving itunder the rug – telling themselves that it couldn’t possiblybe true or that the doctor has made a mistake. Denial canbe a very useful and effective coping strategy during theearly days of a chronic illness – allowing a person to take abrief “time out” before beginning to deal with the realitiesof MS. However, denial that goes on for weeks or monthscan also get in the way of important treatment decisionsand self-care strategies.

Although physicians will generally provide their newly-diagnosedpatients with information about treatment options, theyrecognize that some people want and need the time until theirfollow-up appointment to get used to the idea of startingtreatment with an injectable medication – particularly if theirsymptoms have disappeared and they feel like themselves

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again. Since most people are diagnosed with the relapsingremitting form of MS, denial is common during early periods ofremission, when symptoms partially or completely disappear.

It is important to remember that any and all of these reactionsare “normal.” Each person is going to react in his or her ownway to the diagnosis of MS. Keep in mind, however, that thereis help available if any of the feelings become unmanageableor too uncomfortable. The MS Society of Canada offers avariety of information and support services – in person, byphone, and online – to address these needs.

Longer-Term Reactions

Like people’s initial reactions to the diagnosis, their longer-termreactions will vary considerably as well. Since everyone’s MS isdifferent, there are no predetermined stages of adjustment andno right or wrong ways to feel about it. However, there aresome very common reactions that most people will experienceat one time or another over the course of the disease. Andthey may find these feelings recycling as the disease goesthrough its characteristic ups and downs of relapses andremissions or causes new or worsening symptoms.� Grief: This unique kind of sadness is a normal reaction to

change and loss. Although most people associate grief withthe loss of a loved one, it’s also a common, healthyreaction to any change that threatens one’s sense of self. Inother words, people with MS may find themselves grievinginitially over the diagnosis of a chronic illness, and then

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experiencing those feelings again any time that MS causesa new symptom or interferes with their ability to dosomething that’s important to them.Grieving is an important first step in any person’s efforts tocope with a chronic illness. As the pain of grievinggradually eases over time, the person is able to beginmaking positive adaptations to whatever changes haveoccurred. The cycle of grief and adaptation will continue torepeat itself whenever significant change or loss occurs.

� Anxiety: Feelings of anxiety are very common in MS.Whether people are concerned about getting to thebathroom on time, holding on to their job, keeping up withtheir kids, or becoming severely disabled, they tend to feelanxious when they can’t be sure what’s going to happennext. Learning how to live with the unpredictable ups anddowns of MS is a significant challenge for anyone affectedby this disease.

� Anger: As the disease runs its course, people may findthemselves feeling very angry about all the changes itbrings to their lives. Although anger is a common andnormal response to changes and losses that feel unfair,many people find it difficult to know what to do with it –how to handle and express their anger in ways that areproductive and don’t spill over onto family members,friends, and colleagues. The goal is to find ways to put thatenergy to good use – to channel it into effective planningand problem-solving. Healthy anger can fuel a lot ofproductive creativity.

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� Guilt: If and when the disease begins to interfere withactivities at home or at work, people may begin to feel thatthey are letting others down. They may worry that theirloved ones or colleagues are having to take on extraresponsibilities. They may worry about not contributing tothe family income or that their children aren’t getting asmuch attention as they used to. If the disease progresses inspite of their best efforts to manage it, they may feel guiltyabout that, as if the disease is their fault or that they couldhave made a difference by trying harder.

While each of these reactions is a natural response to theupheavals caused by MS, they can, themselves, begin to feelunmanageable. Grief can feel so overwhelming that it becomesdifficult to distinguish it from depression (see page 12 forinformation about the diagnosis and treatment of clinicaldepression). People can become so anxious about the futurethat they can’t deal with how things are at the moment. Angercan begin to drain a person’s energy and interfere withimportant relationships. And the guilt can rob a person of theconfidence and self-esteem he or she needs to deal with thechallenges of the disease.

Whenever these common feelings start to feel unmanageableor overwhelming, it’s important to know that help and supportare available. For most people, the opportunity to talk aboutthem in a supportive setting – in a self-help group, or with aknowledgeable counsellor – can help relieve the feelings andchannel them into productive problem-solving.

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Family Members Have Feelings Too

As if all these feelings weren’t challenging enough for oneperson, it’s important to keep in mind that family members areexperiencing a similar set of emotions. Everyone who lovessomeone with MS, and whose life is affected in one way oranother by the presence of MS in the family, needs to figureout how to respond to it. Since no two people handle feelingsin exactly the same way, the result is a household full of strongemotions that are being expressed in different ways atdifferent times. It’s a lot like a symphony orchestra without aconductor – everyone is playing his or her own tune, notnecessarily in synch with anyone else. All these feelings posesome significant challenges for families:

� It’s important for family members to acknowledge that theyare all affected in one way or another by MS. Like a pebblethrown into the water, the disease creates its own rippleeffect on the whole family’s everyday life.

� Family members also need to acknowledge and respecteach other’s coping styles and strategies. People tend toreact to stress, express feelings, and problem-solve in verydifferent ways – and one person’s style isn’t necessarily anybetter or more effective than another person’s style. Whileacknowledging these differences, family members willbenefit from learning how to communicate comfortably andrespectfully in spite of them. Talking comes more easily tosome people than others; the challenge lies in making surethat everyone’s feelings are recognized.

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� Parents with MS are often reluctant to talk about thedisease with their children because they don’t want thechildren to be frightened or upset. However, children (evenvery young ones) are very sensitive to their parents’ moods.They know when mom and dad are upset or not feelingwell – even when the MS symptoms are mostly invisible.And they worry about what might be wrong. It’s importantto give children age-appropriate information about MS sothat they have the opportunity to ask questions andexpress their own feelings about whatever is going on.

� Teamwork makes everything easier. By making MS the“common enemy,” family members can direct their frustrationsat the disease rather than each other, and work together tofigure how best to handle the changes in their lives.

Common Emotional ChangesThe previous section talked about common reactions peoplehave to the challenges of living with MS. This section describesemotional changes that are thought to result, at least in part,from the damage to the nervous system caused by MS. Inother words, these changes are considered by MS experts to bepart of the disease process itself rather than just a reaction tothe challenges it poses.

Mood Swings

People with MS report feeling more sensitive and moody, andfamily members may find their loved ones to be cranky at times,quick on the emotional trigger, irritable, and unpredictable in

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their emotional responses to things. Knowing that these moodswings can be part of the disease as well as a reaction to it, canmake it easier for everyone to understand and tolerate them. Butmood swings aren’t comfortable for anyone, so it’s importantto let the health-care team know about them. A mental healthprofessional with expertise in MS can teach strategies formanaging uncomfortable mood swings. For people whosemood swings are more extreme, medications are available tohelp control them.

Depression

While everyone has occasional days of feeling blue or down-in-the-dumps, major depressive episodes (also known as clinicaldepression) are more common in MS than in the generalpopulation or in other chronic illnesses. In fact, more than halfof people with MS will experience a major depressive episodeat some point over the course of the disease. MS experts believethat depression is a symptom of MS as well as a response to it.This is supported by the fact that depressive episodes can occurearly or late in the disease, regardless of a person’s othersymptoms or level of disability. It’s important to know, however,that people who are in the midst of an exacerbation (also calleda relapse or attack), or who have a personal or family historyof depression, are at greater risk for a depressive episode.

Depression is not a sign of weakness – it is a medicalcondition that can and should be treated because it interfereswith a person’s comfort and ability to function. And living withMS can be challenging enough without the added burden of adepressed mood.

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Depression continues to be under-diagnosed and under-treatedin people with MS. There are three primary reasons why this is so:

1. Several of the symptoms listed on the next page (markedwith an asterisk) overlap with common symptoms of MS.Therefore, it may take a psychiatrist or psychologist withexpertise in MS to sort out the various symptoms andconfirm the diagnosis.

2. Many people are too embarrassed or ashamed to admitthese kinds of feelings to their doctors, as if they weresomething to be ashamed of.

3. People mistakenly believe that anyone with a chronic,unpredictable illness like MS would or should be depressed– and this is definitely not the case. Everyone with MSneeds to grieve over whatever losses the MS may cause,and everyone has days of feeling down or discouraged, butnot everyone experiences five or more of the symptoms onthe list (next page) for days for weeks at a time.

For those who do, the good news is that depression is atreatable problem. Most experts agree that a combination ofpsychotherapy and antidepressant medication is the mosteffective treatment strategy. For more detailed informationabout depression and its management, see the brochureentitled Living Well with MS: Mind Matters .

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Diagnosing Depression

The diagnosis of depression can be made if a personexperiences five or more of the following symptoms most or allof every day for at least two weeks:

� Ongoing feelings of sadness or emptiness, irritability, ortearfulness

� Loss of interest or pleasure in most activities� Significant weight loss or gain or a decrease or increase in

appetite� Sleeping too much or inability to sleep� Physical restlessness or slowed movement observed by

others*� Ongoing fatigue or loss of energy*� Feelings of personal worthlessness or guilty without

appropriate cause*� Diminished ability to concentrate or make decisions*� Recurrent thoughts of death or suicide, or planning suicide.

At least one of the first two symptoms must be present for thediagnosis of a major depressive episode to be made.

Uncontrollable Laughing and Crying

Episodes of uncontrollable laughing or crying – also calledpseudobulbar affect – are another symptom that can becaused by MS. These episodes occur independently of how theperson is feeling emotionally, and they start and stopunpredictably. In other words, a person may find him- or

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herself laughing inappropriately at a funeral, while actuallyfeeling sadness and loss or they may be unable to stop cryinguncontrollably while watching a comedy. Individuals with MSand their family members understandably find these episodesfrustrating and embarrassing, and employers may find themunacceptable. Fortunately, uncontrollable laughing and cryingcan often be managed with medication, so it’s important tobring this problem to the attention of the health-care team.

A Word about MS Medications and Mood

The medications that people take to manage MS or itssymptoms can also affect mood.� Steroids and mood swings: The corticosteroids that are

sometimes prescribed to treat MS exacerbations causesome people to experience fairly significant mood swings –from bubbly, energetic “highs” while on the medication toirritable, depressing “lows” as it is being tapered orstopped. While not everyone experiences these moodchanges with corticosteroids, and not everyone has thesame experience each time they are prescribed, the moodchanges can be very uncomfortable. For those people whoexperience significant discomfort, the physician canprescribe a short course of a mood-stabilizing medication.

� Interferons and depression: All three of the beta interferonmedications (Avonex®, Betaseron®, and Rebif®) that are usedto treat MS carry a warning about depression. Althoughstudies have failed to show a clear connection betweenthese medications and depression in people with MS, therehave been reports of people experiencing significant

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depressive episodes. Therefore, anyone who has a history ofdepression should discuss it with their doctor beforestarting one of these medications. And any person whoexperiences a significant mood change while taking aninterferon should alert the doctor immediately. Glatirameracetate and Tysabri, other disease-modifying medicationsused to treat MS, have not been reported to affect mood.

The Role of Stress

What We Know – and Don’t Know – about Stressand MS

A common question on people’s minds is whether stress – orthe emotions that accompany it – can cause MS or make itworse. We still don’t know what causes MS, but there is noevidence to suggest that life stresses are the primary culprit.MS experts believe that the disease occurs in those individualswho are genetically predisposed to respond to someenvironmental trigger, such as a virus or bacterium, whichalters the functioning of the immune system.

Research has shown that stress interacts in complex ways withthe body’s immune system, but the relationship between stressand disease activity or disease progression is unclear. Thedifficulty in sorting this out seems to come from the fact thatnot all stress is the same. For example, studies have shownthat an acute, traumatic stress may have no effect on thedisease course, or may even be associated with reduced risk ofexacerbation, while chronic stress/distress may be associated

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with an increased risk of exacerbation. Whatever therelationship turns out to be between stressful life events andthe course of MS, it is also likely to differ from one individualto another. There is ample evidence to suggest that copingstrategies differ markedly from one person to another, and thatsome people are more resilient to life stresses than others.

This means that trying to manage or control MS by reducingthe stresses in one’s life is not the best strategy – for severalreasons:� The impact of stress on the course of MS is unclear.� Everyday life is filled with stressful events, most of which

are out of an individual’s control. Trying to eliminate themcan only lead to feelings of frustration and failure. And thenpeople may feel guilty or inadequate if their MS progressesin spite of their best efforts to reduce their stress levels.

� The stressful events of everyday life are both negative andpositive. Work, for example, involves the stresses of deadlinesand year-end evaluations, as well as the pressures of apromotion or a new, exciting job. Family life may be stressfulbecause of arguments or illness, but also because of the arrivalof a new baby or an upcoming holiday celebration. Eliminatingall stress from everyday life would rob it of everything thatmakes life exciting, challenging, and worthwhile.

� While there is little or no evidence to suggest thatcontrolling stress can reduce disease activity, there is ampleevidence to show that the available disease-modifyingmedications can. Regular use can reduce both the risk ofrelapses and the development of new lesions as shown onmagnetic resonance imaging.

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Strategies for Managing Stress

Everyone – with or without MS – feels and functions less wellunder stress. The best way to deal with the stresses of everydaylife is to learn how to manage them more effectively – byeliminating those that aren’t essential and finding morecomfortable ways to deal with those that are. A good place tostart is by carefully tracking one’s activities for a week or twoto see how much time and energy are being taken up bythings that don’t really matter. By figuring out what’s mostimportant and meaningful, it becomes easier to establish clearpriorities and decide what to keep doing and what to let go. Atidy house or a perfectly tended lawn, for example, may justnot be as important as quality time with the kids.

The next step is to find a stress management technique thatfits one’s tastes and lifestyle. For one person it may be exerciseor meditation; for another it may be listening to music orgetting together with a friend. The point is to find whateverhealthful strategy provides relief from the pressures ofeveryday life – and then make time for it on a regular basis.For a detailed discussion of stress management strategies, seethe brochure entitled Taming Stress in Multiple Sclerosis.

Some Helpful Tips

MS is a complex, unpredictable disease that can posesignificant emotional challenges for even the strongest, mostresilient people. It will probably take time to find the copingstrategies that work best for you. In the meantime, here aresome suggestions:

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� Be an active partner in your own health careSeek out good information about MS and its management– the more you know, the more prepared you’ll feel tomake the treatment and lifestyle choices that work for you.And find a physician with whom you are comfortable. Anydoctor can prescribe medication and provide periodicexaminations. Having a physician who can discuss personalmatters and explain complex issues is another matter. It islegitimate to shop for a doctor who is knowledgeableabout MS and able to spend time listening and educatingpatients. Multi-disciplinary MS clinics have much to offerboth families and individuals.

� Appraise your MS with realism and flexibilityAllow yourself to grieve over whatever changes or lossesthe MS brings yours way. In time this will free you to takesteps to create new options for yourself. Some peoplestubbornly try to do all the things they did before – inexactly the same way – regardless of their symptoms. Arealistic approach means letting go of some activities (orlearning how to do them differently) and/or taking onnew ones that are more feasible – and thus more enjoyableand rewarding.

� Maintain strong bonds with family and friendsStrong connections with others are an important ingredientin a fulfilling life whether one has MS or not. Most of usneed to know we are loved and cared for, and we alsoneed to love and care for others who are important to us.Although MS may alter some of the things you’re able to

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do with and for other people, it’s important to maintainmeaningful relationships in which you’re on both the givingand receiving end.

� Keep a sense of purpose by setting goalsPersonal goals help point you in the direction you want togo and provide a feeling of accomplishment and pridewhen you get there. An unpredictable disease that sapsyour energy and alters your ability to get things done canmake progress towards your goals more difficult. It mayeven make it necessary for you to re-think previous goalsand develop new goals over time. Whatever course yourMS takes, it’s important to set your sights on things thatare important to you. And working toward your personalgoals – whatever they may be – will help you maintainyour self-confidence and self-esteem, and feel more incontrol.

� Talk about your concerns and feelingsIt’s important for people with MS to have at least onetrusted individual to talk with about how MS is affectingtheir life. While this may be a relative or friend, manypeople find it helpful to have someone – perhaps acounsellor or spiritual advisor – who is less personallyinvolved and therefore more objective. The MS Society ofCanada, a doctor, nurse, social worker, or other professionalcan provide referrals. Most people find that talking withsomeone from time-to-time lets off steam and helps themdevelop perspective.Most people also talk to themselves in ways that can affecttheir feelings in a positive or negative way. For example, a

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shift from saying to oneself that “This situation isimpossible” to saying “I think I can handle this” is a majorstep toward a healthier, more satisfying life.

� Find an exercise regimen that’s right for youA regular exercise program is a key strategy for maintainingemotional health. Many studies have shown a positive linkbetween exercise and improved moods. And the long-termbenefits of exercise on the heart, lungs, bones, nerves, andmuscles apply to people with MS just as much as they doto the general population.Studies of aerobic exercise (geared to a person’s level ofability) have shown that training improves fitness andmuscle strength, and reduces depression and fatigue inpeople with MS. Participants in exercise programs not onlyenjoy an improved sense of well-being, but experienceimprovements in bowel and bladder function as well. Talkwith your doctor about what kinds of exercise would bebest for you.

� Build relaxation into your scheduleTogether with aerobic exercise, programs to enhancephysical and mental relaxation – such as yoga, Tai chi, ormeditation, can be extremely helpful. Other techniques,such as massage, progressive relaxation, and using amantra (“slow down” is a good one), help establish asense of well-being. All of these are proven tools forreducing daily tensions.

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� Avoid the negative cycleFatigue and depression can prompt people to stop doingthings they once enjoyed and reduce their contacts withfriends and colleagues. What begins as feeling tired andblue easily becomes a negative cycle, in which reducedactivity reduces physical well-being, which in turn leads toless energy for activity and more fatigue and depression.Medication to relieve fatigue or depression may be neededto break the cycle once it is established. But awareness ofthe cycle is the first step toward dealing with it.

� Don’t underestimate the value of your spiritualbeliefsFaith is a very important part of many people’s lives.Studies of people with chronic illnesses have found thatthose who have a strong religious or philosophical beliefsystem do better than those without such a source ofsupport. Even the simple act of regular attendance atspiritual gatherings appears to improve coping, perhapsbecause it gives those individuals a feeling of belongingand a sense of group support. And for those who choosenot to attend meetings of this kind, support groups andother social networks may meet the same need.

� Plan on having some funRecreation is often the first thing people eliminate whenthey need to cut back on regular activities because offatigue or a too-busy schedule. Putting responsibilities atthe top of the priority list is understandable but playing andtaking part in social activities can reduce stress, refreshspirits, and contribute to overall health and well-being. The

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people who are able to laugh and enjoy humour generallyfeel better about themselves and manage their lives moreeffectively. Humour goes a long way toward taking thesting out of some of the more challenging aspects of lifewith MS.

Resources

Books

300 Tips for Making Life with Multiple Sclerosis Easier, (2ndEd.) by Shelley Peterman Schwarz. New York. Demos Press,2006. 128 pp.

MS and Your Feelings: Handling the Ups and Downs of MS,Allison Shadday, LCSW. Hunter House, 2006. 256 pp.

Multiple Sclerosis: A Guide for Families, (3rd Ed.), RosalindKalb, PhD, ed. Demos Medical Publishing, 2006. 256 pp.

Multiple Sclerosis for Dummies, by Rosalind Kalb, PhD; NancyHolland, EdD, RN, MSCN; and Barbara Giesser, MD. WileyPublishing, Inc., 2007. 362 pp.

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Chat� The Manitoba Division of the MS Society of Canada offers

websites which have scheduled chat room times for kids ofparents with MS, teens of parents with MS, and parentswith MS:www.msforkids.comwww.msforteens.comwww.msforparents.com

� My World of MSAn international online community through the MultipleSclerosis International Federationhttp://www.msif.org

� In collaboration with MS World Inc., MS World is the officialchat and message board site for the National MS Society(USA).http://www.msworld.org/html/chat.htm

� Teens with MS and their parents may be interested in theemail group support offered through the Children andTeens with MS: A Network for Families. Contact the MSSociety of Canada for more information.

Avonex is a registered trademark of Biogen Idec

Betaseron is a registered trademark of Bayer Schering Pharma Aktiengesellschaft

Rebif is a registered trademark of Ares Trading S.A.

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How to reach the MS Society of CanadaCurrent as of May, 2008

British Columbia Ontario DivisionDivision 175 Bloor Street East1501-4330 Kingsway Suite 700, North TowerBurnaby, British Columbia Toronto, OntarioV5H 4G7 M4W 3R8(604) 689-3144 (416) [email protected] [email protected]

Alberta Division Quebec Division#150, 9405 - 50 Street 550 Sherbrooke Street WestEdmonton, Alberta Suite 1010, East TowerT6B 2T4 Montréal, Québec(780) 463-1190 H3A [email protected] (514) 849-7591

[email protected]

Saskatchewan Division Atlantic Division150 Albert Street 71 Ilsley Avenue, Unit 12Regina, Saskatchewan Dartmouth, Nova ScotiaS4R 2N2 B3B 1L5(306) 522-5600 (902) [email protected] [email protected]

Manitoba Division National Office100-1465 Buffalo Place 175 Bloor Street EastWinnipeg, Manitoba Suite 700, North TowerR3T 1L8 Toronto, Ontario(204) 943-9595 M4W [email protected] (416) 922-6065

[email protected]

Call toll-free in Canada: 1-800-268-7582www.mssociety.ca

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To be a leader in finding a cure formultiple sclerosis and enabling people

affected by MS to enhance their quality of life.

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Contact theMultiple Sclerosis Society of Canada:

Toll-free in Canada: 1-800-268-7582

Email: [email protected]

Website: www.mssociety.ca

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