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God sustains homes and nations who trust Him (Psa. 127). Selecting a mate is the second most crucial decision in life after first submitting to Christ for salvation. We must learn to do our part in selecting a mate and trust God to do His part.

The consequences of choosing a mate are lifelong - and affect our eternal destiny.
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Psalm 127:1

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

[By Ron Halbrook]

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• Introduction

1. Ps. 127 God sustains homes & nations who trust in Him

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

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1. Ps. 127 God sustains homes & nations who trust in Him

1 Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain. 2 It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he giveth his beloved sleep. 3 Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. 4 As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. 5 Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.

Psalm 127

GodlyHome: Happy Home!

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• Introduction

2. Selecting a mate: 2nd most crucial decision in life after 1st submitting to Christ for salvation3. Learn God’s role & man’s role— do our part & trust God to do His!4. Consequences are lifelong— reaching even to eternity!

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

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I. God’s Role in Our Finding the Right Mate A. God Ordained Marriage for Our Good

Gen. 2:18-24 Marriage reflects God’s love for man

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

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Gen. 2:18-24 Marriage reflects God’s love for man 18 And the LORD God said,

It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.+++++++++ ++++++++ +++++++++ +++++++++ +++++++++

21 And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; 22 And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. 23 And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. 24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

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I. God’s Role in Our Finding the Right Mate B. God Joins Us in a Lifelong Covenant

Gen. 2:24 Irrevocable commitment to stay together & serve each other

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

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I. God’s Role in Our Finding the Right Mate B. God Joins Us in a Lifelong Covenant

Matt. 19:6, 9 God joins us when we vow

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

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Matt. 19:6, 9 God joins us when we vow 6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.+++++++++ ++++++++ +++++++++ +++++++++ +++++++++

9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.

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I. God’s Role in Our Finding the Right Mate B. God Joins Us in a Lifelong Covenant

1 Cor. 7:39 Until death does us part

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord.

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I. God’s Role in Our Finding the Right Mate C. God Instructs Us in Proper Attitude & Conduct

Eph. 5:22-27 Render mutual love & service

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

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Eph. 5:22-27 Render mutual love & service

22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. 24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.

MutualLove

&Service

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Eph. 5:22-27 Render mutual love & service

25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.

MutualLove

&Service

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I. God’s Role in Our Finding the Right Mate D. Guides Us If We Trust His Providence

Prov. 19:14; 18:22 God gives what we seek according to His will

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

14 House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the LORD.

22 Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.

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I. God’s Role in Our Finding the Right Mate D. Guides Us If We Trust His Providence

Gen. 2:24 God gave Adam his wife & Eve her husband

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.

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I. God’s Role in Our Finding the Right Mate D. Guides Us If We Trust His Providence

Gen. 24 God gave Isaac his wife and Rebekah her husband by providence Vv. 1-9 Help of parents trusting God

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

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Vv. 1-9 Help of parents trusting God 1 And Abraham was old, and well stricken in age: and the LORD had blessed Abraham in all things. 2 And Abraham said unto his eldest servant of his house, that ruled over all that he had, Put, I pray thee, thy hand under my thigh: 3 And I will make thee swear by the LORD, the God of heaven, and the God of the earth, that thou shalt not take a wife unto my son of the daughters of the Canaanites, among whom I dwell: 4 But thou shalt go unto my country, and to my kindred, and take a wife unto my son Isaac.

God rules overall

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Vv. 1-9 Help of parents trusting God 5 And the servant said unto him, Peradventure the woman will not be willing to follow me unto this land: must I needs bring thy son again unto the land from whence thou camest? 6 And Abraham said unto him, Beware thou that thou bring not my son thither again. 7 The LORD God of heaven, which took me from my father's house, and from the land of my kindred, and which spake unto me, and that sware unto me, saying, Unto thy seed will I give this land; he shall send his angel before thee, and thou shalt take a wife unto my son from thence.

God rules overall

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Vv. 1-9 Help of parents trusting God 8 And if the woman will not be willing to follow thee, then thou shalt be clear from this my oath: only bring not my son thither again. 9 And the servant put his hand under the thigh of Abraham his master, and sware to him concerning that matter.

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I. God’s Role in Our Finding the Right Mate D. Guides Us If We Trust His Providence

Gen. 24 God gave Isaac his wife and Rebekah her husband by providence Vv. 12, 27, 56 Help of friends trusting God

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

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Vv. 12, 27, 56 Help of friends trusting God

12 And he said, O LORD God of my master Abraham, I pray thee, send me good speed this day, and shew kindness unto my master Abraham. 27 And he said, Blessed be the LORD God

of my master Abraham, who hath not left destitute my master of his mercy and his truth: I being in the way, the LORD led me to the house of my master's brethren.

God rules

over all

God rules

over all

56 And he said unto them, Hinder me not, seeing the LORD hath prospered my way; send me away that I may go to my master.

God rules

over all

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I. God’s Role in Our Finding the Right Mate D. Guides Us If We Trust His Providence

Each life is unique, but God is the same God!

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

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II. Our Role in Finding the Right Mate A. 1st Priority: Live by Faith In God

Gal. 2:20 Live by faith in Christ in all things

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

20 I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.

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II. Our Role in Finding the Right Mate A. 1st Priority: Live by Faith In God

Constant prayer asking God’s help Prov. 19:14 Trust He can find the right mate

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

14 House and riches are the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife is from the LORD.

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II. Our Role in Finding the Right Mate A. 1st Priority: Live by Faith In God

Constant prayer asking God’s help Ja. 1:5-6 Ask His wisdom to understand

& fulfill our role

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Ja. 1:5-6 Ask His wisdom to understand & fulfill our role

5 If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him. 6 But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.

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II. Our Role in Finding the Right Mate A. 1st Priority: Live by Faith In God Life

Trust His providence in all areas of life God rules all things now as in Abraham’s day Matt. 6:26-30 He cares for birds & flowers,

how much more for us!

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

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Matt. 6:26-30 He cares for birds & flowers, how much more for us!

26 Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they? 27 Which of you by taking thought can add one cubit unto his stature? 28 And why take ye thought for raiment? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow; they toil not, neither do they spin: 29 And yet I say unto you, That even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. 30 Wherefore, if God so clothe the grass of the field, which to day is, and to morrow is cast into the oven, shall he not much more clothe you, O ye of little faith?

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II. Our Role in Finding the Right Mate A. 1st Priority: Live by Faith In God Life

Trust His providence in all areas of life Ps. 27:13-14 Patiently wait on the Lord

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

13 I had fainted, unless I had believed to see the goodness of the LORD in the land of the living. 14 Wait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the LORD.

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II. Our Role in Finding the Right Mate B. Be Godly in Character

Seek forgiveness when sin against God or man Acts 2:38 Become a Christian,

be serious about going to heaven

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

38 Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.

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II. Our Role in Finding the Right Mate B. Be Godly in Character

Seek forgiveness when sin against God or man Acts 8:22 Repent & pray when stumble

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

22 Repent therefore of this thy wickedness, and pray God, if perhaps the thought of thine heart may be forgiven thee.

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II. Our Role in Finding the Right Mate B. Be Godly in Character

Seek forgiveness when sin against God or man Matt. 5:23-24 Correct sins against others

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

23 Therefore if thou bring thy gift to the altar, and there rememberest that thy brother hath ought against thee; 24 Leave there thy gift before the altar, and go thy way; first be reconciled to thy brother, and then come and offer thy gift.

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II. Our Role in Finding the Right Mate B. Be Godly in Character

1 Cor. 13:4-7 Learn & live unselfish love

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

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1 Cor. 13:4-7 Learn & live unselfish love 4 Charity suffereth long, and is kind;

charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, 5 Doth not behave itself unseemly [rudely], seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil [keeps no record of wrongs]; 6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; 7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.

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II. Our Role in Finding the Right Mate B. Be Godly in Character

1 Pet. 1:14-16 Be pure & holy in life

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

14 As obedient children, not fashioning yourselves according to the former lusts in your ignorance: 15 But as he which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy in all manner of conversation; 16 Because it is written, Be ye holy; for I am holy.

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FORMER LUSTS IN YOUR IGNORANCE

Be ye

holy;As I

amHoly!

FornicationIdolatryAdulteryHomosexualsThievesCovetousDrunkardsRevilersExtortioners

SelfishProudEnviousHateBitter

Anger FitsCursingLiesRumors

DrugsSocial DrinkingTobacco Addiction

DancingPornographyImmodest Dress

Dishonest - Gamble

Forsake Worship Assemblies

False Religion - Teachers

And

Such

Like

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II. Our Role in Finding the Right Mate B. Be Godly in Character

Prov. 12:18 Make the tongue a blessing, not a curse—encourage, compliment

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

18 There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health.

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II. Our Role in Finding the Right Mate C. Seek a Mate Godly in Character

Seeks forgiveness if sins against God or man Acts 2:38 Become a Christian,

be serious about going to heaven Acts 8:22 Repent & pray when stumble Matt. 5:23-24 Correct sins against

others

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

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II. Our Role in Finding the Right Mate C. Seek Mate Godly in Character

1 Cor. 13:4-7 Learn & live unselfish love 1 Pet. 1:14-16 Be pure & holy in life Prov. 12:18 Make the tongue a blessing,

not a curse—encourage, compliment

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

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II. Our Role in Finding the Right Mate D. Prepare for Practical Duties

Man: provide spiritual leadership & daily needs Prov. 6:6-8 Diligent & provident like the ant

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

6 Go to the ant, thou sluggard; consider her ways, and be wise: 7 Which having no guide, overseer, or ruler, 8 Provideth her meat in the summer, and gathereth her food in the harvest.

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II. Our Role in Finding the Right Mate D. Prepare for Practical Duties

Woman: focus on spiritual & daily needs of family Prov. 31:26-27 Wise, kind, diligent worker

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. 27 She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.

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III. Our Decision Has Lifelong Consequences A. If the Lord Builds the House: We Listen to Him

1 Pet. 3:7 Mutual loving service & blessings

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

7 Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.

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III. Our Decision Has Lifelong Consequences B. If We Build Without God, We Sorrow & Suffer

Prov. 25:19 Like toothache & broken bone

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

19 Confidence in an unfaithful man in time of trouble is like a broken tooth, and a foot out of joint.

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HOME BUILT WITH GOD HOME BUILT W/o GODPrayer, Bible Study Resist Prayer, Bible StudyAttend Worship Together Resist Attending WorshipInvite Christians Resist Inviting ChristiansTeach Children God’s Word Lack of Teaching, DivisionSexual Purity Porn, Adultery, IncestTongue Used as Blessing Tongue Used As CurseNo Alcohol, Drugs, Dance, Immodesty, Gambling

Alcohol, Drugs, Dance, Immodesty, Gambling

Stability, Happiness Unstable, UnhappyGod Honored, Glorified God Dishonored, ShamedHeirs Together in Heaven Separated in Heaven & Hell

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• Invitation

1. Ps. 127 God sustains homes & nations who trust in Him

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

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1. Ps. 127 God sustains homes & nations who trust in Him

1 Except the LORD build the house, they labour in vain that build it: except the LORD keep the city, the watchman waketh but in vain. 2 It is vain for you to rise up early, to sit up late, to eat the bread of sorrows: for so he giveth his beloved sleep. 3 Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. 4 As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth. 5 Happy is the man that hath his quiver full of them: they shall not be ashamed, but they shall speak with the enemies in the gate.

Psalm 127

GodlyHome: Happy Home!

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• Invitation

2. Selecting a mate: 2nd most crucial decision in life after 1st submitting to Christ for salvation3. Learn God’s role & man’s role— do our part & trust God to do His!4. Consequences are lifelong— reaching even to eternity!

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

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• Invitation

5. Most crucial decision in life: submitting to Christ Acts 2:38 Accept salvation, enter God’s family

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

38 Then Peter said unto them, Repent, and be baptized every one of you in the name of Jesus Christ for the remission of sins, and ye shall receive the gift of the Holy Ghost.

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• Invitation

5. Most crucial decision in life: submitting to Christ Acts 8:22 Be restored to God’s family

SELECTING A MATE:The Lord Builds the House

22 Repent therefore of this thy wickedness, and pray God, if perhaps the thought of thine heart may be forgiven thee.