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BUILDING RESILIENCE IN YOUR CHILD
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Resilience
• Resilience is the ability to bounce back from adversity.
• Adaptability is the ability to cope well with change.
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Resilience vs Fragility
Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall
Humpty Dumpty had a great fall
All the kings horses & all the kings men
Couldn’t put Humpty together again!
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Adequate Reslience
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Ideal Reslience
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Lifestyle Matters
• Lifestyle choices influence resilience.
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Lifestyle Matters
• Exercise: releases hormones which relax you.
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Lifestyle Matters
• Sleep: have sufficient, high quality sleep. Work with social and biological rhythms.
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Lifestyle Matters
• Diet: eat nutritious meals, low GI.
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Lifestyle Matters
• Relationships: offer support when needed.
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Lifestyle Matters
• Secure family relationships give support.
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Lifestyle Matters
• Socialise: having friends assists resilience.
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Psychological Tools
• Focus on the present moment with MINDFULNESS.
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Psychological Tools
• Learn optimism with the 3 P’s:
Pessimism
1. Permanent
2. Personal
3. Pervasive
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Optimism
1. Temporary
2. Not Personal
3. Total view is positive
Psychological Tools
• Live life according to your authentic self.
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Psychological Tools
• Be realistic. Things often go wrong.
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Psychological Tools
• You cannot protect your child from falling but you can teach your child:
– How to fall
– How to get up
– And what to do with the scratch
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Psychological Tools
• Focus on character rather than personality (Steven Covey).
– Self-discipline
– Responsibility
– Courage
– Reliability
– Fair play
– Honesty
– Kindness
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Psychological Tools
• Embrace challenges. Encourage mastery.
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Psychological Tools
• Screen what your children watch, read and hear. Protect them from real threats.
– Too much too soon
– Inappropriate stimuli
– Predators on the net
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Psychological Tools
• Focus on strengths rather than social values. Bring out the best in your child.
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Psychological Tools
• Be flexible.
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Psychological Tools
• Meaning: Fill your day with meaning.
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Psychological Tools
• Provide wisdom.
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Look for the blessings and express Gratitude.
The Blessing of Unanswered PrayersUnknown Confederate soldier
I asked for strength that I might achieve;
I was made weak that I might learn humbly to obey.
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Look for the blessings and express Gratitude.
I asked for health that I might do greater things;
I was given infirmity that I might do better things.
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Look for the blessings and express Gratitude.
I asked for riches that I might be happy;
I was given poverty that I might be wise.
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Look for the blessings and express Gratitude.
I asked for power that I might have the praise of men;
I was given weakness that I might feel the need of God.
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Look for the blessings and express Gratitude.
I asked for all things that I might enjoy life;
I was given life that I might enjoy all things.
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Look for the blessings and express Gratitude.
I got nothing that I asked for,
But everything that I had hoped for.
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Look for the blessings and express Gratitude.
Almost despite myself my unspoken prayers were answered;
I am, among all men, most richly blessed.
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