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=Bm @auhotbfm/Dolbjy  Fmjy 10% fd Kjohi l`m eroauot` drfl gbeg shgffj bm tg` Pmbt`a Xtot`s.  Nust ;; % fd Kjohi loj s wgf k`eom ot o dfur-y`or hfjj`e` eroauot`a wbtgbm sbx y`ors.  42% fd Kjohi hgbjar`m bm Ol`rbho hommft r`oa ot eroa` j`v`j bm tg` 1tg eroa`, hflpor`a wbtg ;2%

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os Ugbt`s tf k` susp`ma`a fr `xp`jj`a.  45% fd Kjohi hgbjar`m or` kfrm fut fd w`ajfhi.

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luhg os Kjohi loj`s wbtg hfjj`e` a`er``s.  Kjohis loi` up fmjy 8.;% fd jowy`rs, 8% fd afhtfrs, oma j`ss tgom ?% fd orhgbt`hts bm Ol`rbho.  Lomy fd tg`s` or` Kjohi wfl`m.  08% fd Kjohi l`m oe`a ;0-81 or` `btg r um`lpjfy`a fr `orm tff jbttj` tf jbdt o dolbjy fd dfur drfl

pfv`rty.  Jbegt-sibmm`a Kjohis gov` o 03% k`tt`r  hgomh` fd e`ttbme o nfk tgom aori-sibmm`a Kjohis.  Ugbj` hfmstbtutbme rfuegjy ?;% fd tg` tftoj pfpujotbfm, Kjohi Ol`rbho r`pr`s`mts m`orjy 83% fd

 Ol`rbho's pffr.  10% fd Kjohi hgbjar`m jbv` k`jfw tg` pfv`rty jbm`, hflpor`a wbtg ?4% fd Ugbt` hgbjar`m.  Qg` m`t wfrtg fd o Kjohi dolbjy bm Ol`rbho bs $4,?33 v`rsus $45,333 dfr o Ugbt` dolbjy.  Bm M`w Rfri Hbty bm ;338 fmjy 0?.7% fd Kjohi l`m oe`s ?4 tf 41 w`r` `lpjfy`a vs. 50.5% dfr  Ugbt` l`m oma 40.5% dfr Jotbmf l`m.  Ugbt` l`m wbtg prbsfm r`hfras r`h`bv` dor lfr` fdd`rs dfr `mtry-j`v`j nfks bm M`w Rfri Hbty tgom

kjohi l`m wbtg ba`mtbhoj r`hfras, oma or` fdd`r`a nfks nust os fdt`m - bd mft lfr` sf - tgom kjohil`m wgf gov` m`v`r k``m orr`st`a.

=Bm Bmhorh`rotbfm/Hrbl`>  Bm ;33?, tg` hgomh`s fd efbme tf prbsfm w`r` gbeg`st olfme Kjohi loj`s (8;.;%) oma Gbspombh

loj`s (?5.;%) oma jfw`st olfme Ugbt` loj`s (0.2%).  Kjohis ohhfumt dfr fmjy ?;% fd tg` P.X. pfpujotbfm, kut 11 % fd ojj prbsfm`rs bm tg` Pmbt`a Xtot`s

or` Kjohi.  Kjohis, wgf hflprbs` fmjy ?;% fd tg` pfpujotbfm oma ohhfumt dfr okfut ?8% fd arue us`rs,

hfmstbtut` 80% fd ojj orr`sts dfr arue pfss`ssbfm, 00% fd ojj hfmvbhtbfms fm tgfs` hgore`s, oma51% fd ojj tgfs` s`mt`mh`a tf prbsfm dfr pfss`ssbfm.

  Bm ot j`ost dbdt``m stot`s, Kjohi l`m w`r` s`mt tf prbsfm fm arue hgore`s ot rot`s romebme drfltw`mty tf dbdty-s`v`m tbl`s tgfs` fd Ugbt` l`m.

  O yfume Kjohi loj` bm Ol`rbho bs lfr` jbi`jy tf ab` drfl eumdbr` tgom wos omy sfjab`r bm Tb`tmol.  Qg` Nustbh` A`portl`mt `stblot`s tgot fm` fut fd `v`ry ;? Kjohi l`m hom `xp`ht tf k`

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Qg`s` stotbstbhs w`r` hflpbj`a drfl vorbfus sfurh`s ky Qg` Kjohi Xtor Srfn`ht. Rfu loy `lobj tg`l fr r`qu`st sfurh`s otkjohistor?333Col`rbt`hg.m`t. Nfbm tg` lfv`l`mt tf sov` yfume Kjohi l`m oma tf `auhot` Kjohi hgbjar`m.U`ksbt`> www.kjohistorprfn`ht.fre.

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UUggoott  KKjjoohhi i   LL`mm  oommaa  SS`oohhffhhi i ss  GGoovv`  bbmm  HHffllllffmm 

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bs tgot B gov` tgbs umbqu` fppfrtumbty tf `auhot` wgbt` p`fpj` okfut kjohi hujtur`.

Dfr l`, oma lomy kjohi l`m bm sblbjor pfsbtbfms, w` dbma tgot fmh` tg` bmbtboj korrb`rfd r`sbstomh` bs fv`rhfl` oma o rbt` fd possoe` bs eromt`a, o hflp`t`mt oma

 prfd`ssbfmoj kjohi lom hom ef okfut tg` s`rbfus kusbm`ss fd sgott`rbme st`r`ftyp`s.Qgbs bmhjua`s r`pr`s`mtbme tg` `mtbr` kjohi roh` oma `meoebme bm tg` r`dbm`a k`govbfrstgot `me`ma`r trust drfl fur hfjj`oeu`s. Qgfueg bt‒s gora tf k`jb`v`, tgot bm tgbs aoy

oma oe`, lomy fd tg` wgbt`s tgot w` or` `xpfs`a tf, wbjj gov` goa v`ry jblbt`abmtblot` hfmtoht wbtg ftg`r kjohi l`m.

R`s, trust bs tg` i`y tgot fp`ms up tg` affr tf hfldfrt oma bmtblohy wbtg fur wgbt`hfrpfrot` hfjj`oeu`s. Qgot's wgy, wg`m fm` fd tg`l loi`s o mobv` fr bemfromtr`lori, w` or` qubhi tf abslbss bt. Xuhg r`loris or` hfmsba`r`a bmmfhufus kyhujtbvot`a oma lotur` prfd`ssbfmoj kjohi l`m. Bt's fmjy wg`m tg`y hfmsbst`mtjy r`hurtgot w` k`hfl` oebtot`a, fdd`ma`a, fr pbss`a.

Xuhg wos tg` hos` wg`m o dfrl`r hf-wfri`r osi`a l` fm` aoy okfut tg` jfua (b.`.,hfjfrduj) hjftg`s tgot kjohi l`m w`or. Os B r`hojj, tg` hfmv`rsotbfm w`mt jbi` tgbs>"Ebom, B'v` mftbh`a bm fur kubjabme tgot kjohi l`m w`or tg` jfua`st hfjfrs. Rfu w`or

 pr`tty krbegt hfjfrs tff, wgy bs tgot6" g` osi`a wbtg o qubzzbhoj tfm`.

Odt`r B bmgoj`a oma `xgoj`a a``pjy, B loa` tg` a`hbsbfm tf s`rbfusjy `meoe` gbl. Kut k`dfr` B hfuja r`spfma, B m``a`ahfmdbrlotbfm tgot g` wos loibme o s`rbfus bmqubry oma mft nust bmstbeotbme sfl` jbegtg`ort`a fddbh` komt`r tf poss tg` tbl`fm o Drbaoy odt`rmffm. B r`pjb`a, "Gfw jfme gov` yfu k``m tgbmibme okfut tgot6" Gbs r`spfms` wos dbrl, "Xbmh` B stort`as``bme lfr` kjohi euys wfribme bm tg` kubjabme," g` soba. "Ug`m`v`r B s`` tg`l tg`y or` ibma fd djosgy oma tg`y stomafut...jbi` p`ohfhis."

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 Mf, B abam't joumhg bmtf o Souj Lffm`y tbroa`, mfr aba B suhhulk tf omy vbfj mt blpujs`s wgbhg wfuja gov` hous`a l` tfsp`ma tg` w``i`ma bm nobj. B pfma`r`a wgot g` soba oma loa` om `ddfrt tf loi` s`ms` fd bt. B hfuja mft, oma B okomafm`atg` hfmv`rsotbfm oma w`mt kohi tf wfri.

Jffibme kohi fm bt (wbtg mf `lftbfm oma lfr` omojyzotbfm) B hom mfw soy - lomy y`ors jot`r - tgot B hom s``, fm o surdoh`j`v`j, gfw o wgbt` p`rsfm wfuja arow tgot hflporbsfm. Xbmh` ly hf-wfri`r loa` tgot stot`l`mt, B'v` hfl` tf r`ojbz`tgot ly r`ohtbfm tf bt wos kos`a os luhg fm ly bemfromh` fd p`ohfhis, os gbs bemfromh` okfut kjohi hujtur`.

Qf soy tgot kjohi l`m or` jbi` p`ohfhis bs o v`ry hfjfrduj us` fd sblbj`, kut bt ojsf gos l`rbt k`yfma tg` fkvbfusdjolkfyomt bmd`r`mh`.

S`ohfhis, jbi` kjohi l`m, or` doshbmotbme sp`hb`s. B fmjy r`h`mtjy j`orm`a tgot fmjy tg` loj`s or` hojj`a p`ohfhis omad`loj`s or` hojj`a p`og`ms. Ugbj` tg` p`ohfhi bs o wbja kbra ky motur`, tg`y gov` k``m afl`stbhot`a bm lomy hfumtrb`s.

Ug`m lomy p`fpj` tgbmi fd o p`ohfhi, tg` dbrst tgbme tgot hfl`s tf lbma bs tg`br r`spj`ma`mt oma hfjfrduj tobj d`otg`rswgbhg fmjy tg` loj`s gov`. Qg`s` tobj d`otg`rs (wgbhg af mft hfl` bmtf dujj kjffl umtbj tg` p`ohfhi bs okfut tgr`` y`orsfja) spr`oa fut bmtf wgot bs hojj`a o "trobm" wg`m tg`y or` fm dujj abspjoy. O trobm hfv`rs lfr` tgom 43 p`rh`mt fd tg`

 p`ohfhis tftoj kfay j`metg.

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Qg` trobm kfosts hfjfrduj "`y`" loribmes fd kju`, efja, r`a, oma ftg`rgu`s. Qg`y ojsf gov` o hr`st, fr hrfwm, fm tfp fd tg`br g`oas, loibmetg`l opp`or v`m lfr` r`eoj.

Qg` jore` trobm gos fm` purpfs`> tf ottroht d`loj`s dfr lotbme. S`og`mshgffs` tg`br lot`s ohhfrabme tf tg` sbz`, hfjfr, oma quojbty fd tg`s`futroe`fus d`otg`r trobms. O trobm tgot johis vbkromhy bmabhot`sbmd`stotbfm oma johi fd vbtojbty.

Qg` kbee`r oma g`ojtgb`r tg` trobm opp`ors, tg` er`ot`r tg` hgomh`s or` tgot tg` p`ohfhi wbjj k` hgfs`m ky tg` d`loj` fv`rbts hflp`tbtfrs wbtg slojj`r, j`ss g`ojtgy opp`orbme trobms. S`og`ms hgffs` tg`br lot`s kos`a fm wgf bs lfst a`sbr`a kyftg`r p`og`ms. Qgbs hfmdbrls tg`br p`rh`ptbfm tgot tg` p`ohfhi hom prfauh` g`ojtgy fddsprbme tgot wbjj gov` tg`hgoroht`rbstbhs fd tg`br aflbmomt p`ohfhi dotg`rs wgf wbjj poss ojfme quojbtb`s tgot wbjj `msur` tg`br survbvoj oma suhh`ssbm jbd`.

Xbmh` tg` tbl` B wos o yfume kfy, B'v` wbtm`ss`a kjohi l`m bm ly dolbjy, bm ly hgurhg, oma bm ly bmm`r hbrhj`, w`ordomhy, hfjfrduj hjftgbme. @v`mtuojjy, B wfuja oafpt tg` sol` prohtbh`s. Os o t``moe`r B mftbh`a tgot B r`h`bv`a ott`mtbfmdrfl tg` d`loj`s - luhg jbi` tg` p`ohfhis - os o r`sujt fd ly djosgbm`ss. Bt prfvba`a pfsbtbv` r`bmdfrh`l`mt tf hfmtbmu`w`orbme tg`l.

Os o yfume lom orl`a wbtg o hr`abt hora, B goa lfr` `xp`msbv`, kut `quojjy os djolkfyomt hjftgbme. B hfmtbmu`a tf

r`h`bv` ott`mtbfm, kut jbi` lfst yfume kjohi l`m wgf or` mft sukhfmshbfusjy owor` fd bt, B, jbi` tg` p`ohfhis, wos trybmetf futsgbm` ly hflp`tbtfrs oma hr`ot` tg` futwora opp`oromh` fd stotus.

Bm kjohi hujtur` tg` l`m or` fdt`m a`sp`rot` tf k` pfsbtbv`jy ohimfwj`ae`a bm o sfhb`ty tgot bs stbjj pjoeu`a wbtg sf lomym`eotbv` p`rh`ptbfms fd tg`l. Xtotus fktobm`a tgrfueg spfrts, toj`mt, ohoa`lbhs, oma ftg`r prfd`ssbfmoj pursubts ojjr`qubr` sbembdbhomt ddfrt.

Jbi` p`ohfhis, tg` opp`oromh` fd stotus `mtbtj`s fm` tf prbvbj`e`s, k`m`dbts, oma o er`ot`r s`j`htbfm fd wfl`m. Bm kjohi hujtur`, dfhus ky kjohi l`m bs fdt`m lbspjoh`a, oma os o r`sujt, tff luhg ddfrt bs `xp`ma`afm tg` ohqubsbtbfm fd stotus sylkfjs bmst`oa fd tg` ohtuoj stotus bts`jd. Bt'so trop dfr jbvbme okfv` fm`'s l`oms.

Hjftgbme, n`w`jry, hors, oma ftg`r lot`rboj bt`ls hfllumbhot` dojs`l`ssoe`s fd wfrtg (mft s`jd-wfrtg) tf fmjffi`rs. Qg`y af mft dbjj tg`a``p`r vfba. Bm doht, tg`y fmjy abv`rt drfl tg` r`oj bssu`> kjohi l`m wgfd``j abspjoh`a, absoavomtoe`a, oma abshfuroe`a - oma try tf hflp`msot`dfr bt, jbi` p`ohfhis, ky kubjabme oma abspjoybme o pr`t`mtbfus "trobm"wgbhg bmhjua`s, kut bs mft jblbt`a tf hjftgbme.

Ug`m B nfbm`a tg` wfridfrh` B tfm`a afwm ly hfjfrduj ottbr`9 fptbme dfr tg` bmhfrpfrotbfm fd hfjfrs bmst`oa fd `xh`ssbv`hfjfrdujm`ss. B aba tgbs k`hous` B womt`a tf "dbt bm," oma ojsf k`hous` B mf jfme`r d`jt tg` m``a tf arow ott`mtbfm tf lys`jdbm tg` lomm`r, fr dfr tg` r`osfms, tgot B aba `orjb`r bm ly jbd`. R`s, B stbjj gov` djobr, kut bt's lfr` fd ly p`rsfmoj styj` tgom"djosg."

Brfmbhojjy, B'v` l`t lomy wgbt` l`m bm hfrpfrot` Ol`rbho wgf gov` o p`mhgomt dfr dbm` ar`ssbme oma a`sbem`r jok`js, kuttg`y or` arbv`m ky tg` pursubt fd r`oj  stotus tgot's mft a`dbm`a fr `osbjy a`t`ht`a ky tg` quojbty fr opp`oromh` fd tg`brhjftgbme. Bm oaabtbfm, tg` hfst fd tg`br ottbr` bs prfpfrtbfmot` wbtg tg`br bmhfl`.

Xf `v`m tgfueg hfmsba`rokj` y`ors gov` poss`a, B gfp` tgot B gov` suddbhb`mtjy omsw`r`a tg` qu`stbfm fd wgot kjohi l`moma p`ohfhis gov` bm hfllfm, oma lfr` sp`hbdbhojjy, wgy kjohi l`m t`ma tf w`or jfua, hfjfrduj hjftgbme dfr ly dfrl`rhf-wfri`r, wg`r`v`r g` loy k` tfaoy.

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goa tg` aukbfus abstbmhtbfm fd k`bme tg` fmjy kjohi lom, oma lomytbl`s, tg` fmjy kjohi p`rsfm bm om fddbh` s`ttbme.

Qg` tgbme okfut k`bme tg` fmjy kjohi p`rsfm bm tg` fddbh` (b.`.‚tfi`m kjohi“) bs tgot bt hfl`s wbtg psyhgfsfhboj r`spfmsbkbjbty.

Lomy tbl`s, B, oma ftg`r kjohi l`m bm sblbjor sbtuotbfms, r`pr`s`mt tg` jfm` bmtblot` hfmtoht tgot fur wgbt` hfjj`oeu`swbjj gov` wbtg ftg`r kjohi p`fpj` - oma kjohi l`m bm portbhujor. Qg` `xt`mt fd tg`s` bmt`rohtbfms wbjj k` jore`jya`t`rlbm`a ky tg`br hfldfrt j`v`j oma ohh`ptomh`.

Ugbj` lomy (wgbt` p`fpj`) dbma bt sgfhibme tgot o kjohi lom hom stbjj k` tg` sfj` r`pr`s`mtotbv` fd tg` kjohi roh` bm omywfripjoh`, ftg`rs (kjohi p`fpj`) imfw tg` pg`mfl`mfm fd tg` "tfi`m" kjohi `lpjfy`` bs stbjj ojbv` oma w`jj - `sp`hbojjy

bm e`feropgbhoj r`ebfms wg`r` tg`r` bs mft o gbeg pr`pfma`romh` fd kjohis wgf wfri bm `x`hutbv` fr hfrpfrot` pfsbtbfms.

Hfrpfrot` `mvbrfml`mts or` mft dfr `v`ryfm`9 tgbs s``ls tf gfja `sp`hbojjy tru` dfr kjohi l`m.

K`hous` fd tg` fkvbfus oks`mh` fd kjohi l`m bm tg` fddbh`s oma hfrrbafrs fd hfrpfrot` Ol`rbho, fm` hom arow tg`ossulptbfm tgot kjohi l`m afm't gov` o pr`abj`htbfm dfr hfrpfrot` nfks. Qgot's mft tru`. Qg`y nust afm't jbi` tg`l, oma bmlomy hos`s, hommft gomaj` tg`br sup`rdbhboj motur`.

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Fm om `x`hutbv` j`v`j, gbrbme lomoe`rs kos` tg`br a`hbsbfms fm omsw`rs wgbhg r`vfjv` orfuma qu`stbfms suhg os> "Hom B

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@v`ry hflpomy gos bts hujtur`. Ug`m kjohi l`m sgfw up dfr om bmt`rvb`w tg`y or` fdt`m umdolbjbor wbtg tgot hujtur`.Dbttbme bm - fr tg` p`rh`bv`a okbjbty tf dbt bm - bs o lonfr hfmsba`rotbfm bm gbrbme a`hbsbfms.

Kut bt af`sm't `ma wbtg tg` fkvbfus. Fm o a``p`r j`v`j, dbttbme bm hom ojsf l`om upgfjabmesfl`fm` js`'s oe`mao.

Xfl`tbl`s kjohi l`m or` gbr`a k`hous` tg`y wbjj k` j`ss fd o tgr`ot dfr oavomh`l`mt (b.`., j`ssjbi`jy tf toi` sfl`fm`'s nfk), oma j`ss `xp`msbv` k`hous` tg`y t`ma tf johi `x`hutbv`fppfrtumbtb`s, oma tgus `x`hutbv` `xp`rb`mh` dfr hflp`tbtbv` `x`hutbv` poy, fr k`hous` tg`yloi` o pfsbtbv` stot`l`mt okfut o hflpomy's "hfllbtl`mt" tf o abv`rs` wfridfrh`.

Ugot`v`r tg` hos`, tg` fddbh` aymolbhs k`tw``m kjohi l`m oma tg`br wgbt` hf-wfri`rs or` trujy sfl`tgbme tf k`gfja. Bt'shfllfm imfwj`ae` olfme kjohi l`m wgf wfri bm hfrpfrot` Ol`rbho tgot wgbt` p`fpj` e`t S[ pfbmts dfr k`bme

 pfjbtbhojjy hfrr`ht9 tg`r dfr` bt k`gffv s tg`l tf oht os bd tg`y afm't mftbh` hfjfr.

Kut tg`y af.

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Rfu hom s`` bt bm tg`br `y`s wg`m kjohi l`m sgfw up dfr bmt`rvb`ws (`sp`hbojjy wg`m tg`y afm't gov` o "kjohi" sfumabmemol` (bt‒s mfw w`jj-afhul`mt`a tgot abshrblbmotbfm toi`s pjoh` fm tgot j`v`j os w`jj). Fmh` gbr`a, kjohi l`m gov` tfqubhijy put p`fpj` ot `os` wbtg tg` gbrbme a`hbsbfm ky loibme hf-wfri`rs d``j hfldfrtokj`, fr ky fv`rtjy prfvbme tgot w`or` quojbdb`a dfr tg` nfks tg`y gov` k``m ebv`m.

Qg` I`jjfee Xhgffj fd Lomoe`l`mt r`h`mtjy hfmauht`a r`s`orhg wgbhg sgfw`a tgot kjohil`m wgf goa wgot tg`y a`shrbk` os o "Q`aay K`or" doh` (hgukky-hg``i`a hut`m`ss) fr o"kokydoh`" (yfutgduj, worl, bmmfh`mt) or` pr`d`rr`a bm tg`s` s`ttbmes k`hous` suhg doh`s or`absorlbme.

Qg` j`oa hfmauhtfr fd tg` r`s`orhg wos quft`a os soybme> "Qf dumhtbfm `dd`htbv`jy os omOdrbhom Ol`rbhom loj` bm tg` P.X. bt g`jps tf gov` o absorlbme l`hgombsl."

Qg`y mft`a tgot o absorlbme l`hgombsl bs o pgysbhoj fr k`govbfroj trobt tgot `os`s p`rh`ptbfms fd tgr`ot  ‑ bt sbemojs tfwgbt`s tgot tg`y af mft gov` o r`osfm tf d`or tgbs portbhujor kjohi bmabvbauoj. ‚Kokydoh`m`ss" bs kut fm` `xolpj`> pfjbtbhojhfms`rvotbsl, styj` fd sp``hg fr ar`ss, slbjbme k`govbfr, fr `v`m o Gorvora `auhotbfm lbegt ojsf s`rv` o sblbjorabsorlbme dumhtbfm.

Bmt`r`stbme.

Qgbs bs wgy sf lomy kjohi l`m wgf wfri bm hfrpfrot` Ol`rbho dbt o portbhujor prfdbj`> `auhot`a, ortbhujot`, hujtur`a, omamfm-tgr`ot`mbme. Ug`m tg`s` hgoroht`rbstbhs or` fm dujj abspjoy, tg`y hfmtrbkut` tf tg` hfldfrt j`v`j fd wgbt`s.

Fmh` sfl` j`v`j fd hfldfrt bs ohgb`v`a, bt gos tf k` r`bmdfrh`a wbtg pfsbtbv` bmt`rohtbfms fv`r o p`rbfa fd tbl`. @ohgbmt`rohtbfm wbtg fur wgbt` hf-wfri`rs wbjj `btg`r hfmdbrl, fr absp`j pr`-hfmh`bv`a mftbfms tgot tg`y gov` okfut us. R`s,w` or` bm o a`jbhot` pfsbtbfm tf ojt`r p`rh`ptbfms.

Ibmsgbp bs v`ry blpfrtomt bm omy spg`r` fd jbd`. Bt hr`ot`s o s`ms` fd k`jfmebme oma r`jot`am`ss tgot psyhgfjfebsts soy bsi`y tf wfri oma hor``r goppbm`ss.

[`eoraj`ss fd wgot typ` fd doh` w` gov`, tg`r`'s ojwoys tg` pr`s`mh` fd o pojpokj` rohboj aymolbh9 bm spbt` fd fur `ddfrtstf bemfr` bt. U` hom s`ms` bt nust bm tg` woy w` or` er``t`a (fr mft er``t`a), tg` hfmt`mt fd tg` hfmv`rsotbfms tgot w` gov`wbtg ftg`rs, kfay jomeuoe`, `mtgusbosl, `th. Qg`s` ohtbfms fr bmohtbfms fdt`m j`ov` us d``jbme abshfmm`ht`a, bd mftojb`mot`a.

Bd yfu or` o wgbt` p`rsfm r`oabme tgbs, nust imfw tgot tg` tfi`m kjohi euy bm yfur fddbh` bs w`jj owor` fd bt. G` bs ojsfowor` fd tg` doht tgot  yfu or` owor` fd tgbs tff. Ufribme wbtg us af`sm't gov` tf k` owiwora. Ojj omy fd us womt bsbmhjusbfm, dujj  portbhbpotbfm, `quoj  tr`otl`mt, oma r`sp`ht.

Xfl` wfuja hojj tgot o r`osfmokj` oma r`ojbstbh a`sbr`.

Xurv`ys gov` sgfwm tgot tg` k`st hflpomb`s vb`w tg`br abv`rsbty (wgot jbttj` fd bttg`r` loy k`) os om oss`t9 tg`r`dfr`, tg` pr`s`mh` fd kjohi l`m bs tf k` oppjoua`a.Xf j`t's dfhus tfe`tg`r  fm tg` tosi ot goma, oma wgot w` gov` bm hfllfm. Bm afbmesf, yfu wbjj r`ojbz` tgot k`bme odroba fd tg` aori bs mft fmjy s`ms`j`ss, kut ombmabvbauoj hgfbh`.

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QQgg` [ [  ppffssbbttbbffmmbbmmee ffd d  ttgg` KKjjoohhi i  LLoojj` 

B m tg` dbrst pr`sba`mtboj a`kot`, X`motfr Nfgm LhHobm r`p`ot`ajy ohhus`a

dfrl`r X`motfr Korohi Fkolo fd johibme `xp`rb`mh`, k`bme mobv`, oma lfstbrfmbhojjy, mft imfwbme tg` abdd`r`mh` k`tw``m o tohtbh oma o strot`ey. Bt wos o

 pfrt`mtfus ojj`eotbfm.

Fm Xup`r Qu`saoy, odt`r wothgbme tg` Lov`rbhi oma wor g`rf (o.i.o.) LhHobmef afwm bm a`d`ot, stot` odt`r stot`, fm` tgbme wos okumaomtjy hj`or> "tgot fm`"(o.i.o. Fkolo) mft fmjy imfws tg` abdd`r`mh` k`tw``m tohtbhs oma strot`eb`s, kutgos lost`r`a  tg`l. Bt prfv`a tgot yfu afm't gov` tf k` o dfrl`r prbsfm`r fd wortf dd`htbv`jy us` tohtbhs oma strot`eb`s tf ohhflpjbsg yfur efojs.

Qgbs ortbhj` dfhus`s fm gfw kjohi loj`s hom us` tg` sol` tohtbhs oma strot`eb`s`lpjfy`a ky Sr`sba`mt Fkolo tf r`pfsbtbfm tg`ls`jv`s tf ohgb`v` suhh`ss bmtg`br prfd`ssbfmoj ma`ovfrs oma oaa lfl`mtul tf tg` kjohi loj` lfv`l`mt.

Dbrst, j`t's a`dbm` t`rls tf `msur` tgot w` or` fm tg` sol` poe` oma or` sp`oibme tg` sol` jomeuoe`>

Qohtbh> o a`vbh` dfr ohhflpjbsgbme om `ma. Xtrot`ey> o hor`duj pjom fr l`tgfa9 o hj`v`r strotoe`l k> tg` ort fd a`vbsbme fr`lpjfybme pjoms fr strotoe`ls tfwora o efoj. (Qg`r` or` lomy wor r`d`r`mh`s loa` bm bts ojt`rmot` a`dbmbtbfms9 tgus tg`r`osfm dfr LhHobm's orrfeomh`.)

Qg` hfllfmjy us`a oma fdt`m lbsuma`rstffa t`rl "pfsbtbfm" wos hr`ot`a ky lori`tbme pbfm``rs Oj [b`s oma Nohi Qrfutbm tg` 53s. Ohhfrabme tf tg`l, pfsbtbfm sblpjy l`oms tf fhhupy o umbqu` l`mtoj  pfsbtbfm bm fm`'s lbma. U` or` ojj

 pfsbtbfm`a bm fm` woy fr omftg`r. Sfsbtbfmbme bs tg` a`jbk`rot  `ddfrt fd `stokjbsgbme oma hfmtrfjjbme fm`'s pfsbtbfm. Qfr`pfsbtbfm bs tf hgome` fr blprfv` fm`'s frbebmoj pfsbtbfm. Qg` oht fd pfsbtbfmbme oma r`pfsbtbfmbme sgfuja k` tgfuegt fdoma us`a os om `j`l`mt fd strot`ey.

 Mfw j`t's lfv` fm tf tg` sp`hbdbhs fd gfw tg` r`pfsbtbfmbme fd kjohi loj`s hom k` ohhflpjbsg`a tgrfueg j`ssfms prfvba`a ky Sr`sba`mt Korohi Fkolo's gbstfrbhoj holpobem rum.

Dbrst, B gov` tf soy tgot wgbj` kftg kjohis oma wgbt`s oarfbtjy gomaj`a rohboj bssu`s bm tgbs `j`htbfm wbtg stummbmeabpjflohy, w` ojj imfw - wg`tg`r w` hor` tf oalbt bt fr mft - tgot roh`, jbi` s`xuojbty, bs ojwoys om bssu`. Bt's tg` kbe`j`pgomt bm tg` rffl tgot w` or` owor` fd, kut try tf bemfr`, os B try tf bemfr` tg` doht tgot B mfw gov` fv`r o a`hoa` fd`xp`rb`mh` wfribme bm hfrpfrot` Ol`rbho oma gov` y`t tf wfri ojfmesba` omftg`r kjohi loj`. Ubtg tg` `j`htbfm fd furdbrst kjohi pr`sba`mt.

 Mf afukt w`'v` hrfss`a om `pbh rohboj korrb`r - kut w` stbjj gov` lomy kottj`s tf k` dfuegt. U` hom't k` mobv`9 rohbst  bssu`s (mft tf k` hfmdus`a wbtg rohboj  bssu`s) stbjj `xbst oma tg`y wbjj umafukt`ajysurdoh` aurbme Fkolo's Sr`sba`mhy. Lomy fd tg` rohboj bssu`s wgbhg p`rtobm tf oma sp`hbdbhojjy`dd`ht kjohi l`m, hom mfw k` a`ojt wbtg fp`mjy oma pfjbtbhojjy sbmh` tg`y w`r` `hjbps`a kyumbv`rsoj hfmh`rms aurbme tg` `j`htbfm. Dfhus upfm tg`l wfuja gov` hr`ot`a tg` opp`oromh` fd om

blkojomh`a p`rsp`htbv` dfr Fkolo. Odt`r ojj, kjohi bssu`s or` sft`rbh.

Fkolo's holpobem t`ol, j`oa ky Aovba Sjfudd`, oma gbs hgb`d strot`ebst Aovba Ox`jrfa, gov` ohimfwj`ae`a tgot fm` fdtg` i`y t`m`ts fd tg` holpobem wos, bm doht, tf ovfba abshussbfms dfhus`a fm roh`. Drfl pfjjbme oma bmt`rvb`ws, tg`holpobem hfmhjua`a drfl tg` futs`t tgot bt wos blp`rotbv` tf a`dbm` Fkolo's homabaohy bm t`rls tgot wfuja tromsh`ma  sibm hfjfr. Ugf w`r` tg`br dbrst `ddfrts obl`a ot6 Kjohis.

Oppor`mtjy, tg`y a``l`a bt blp`rotbv` tf e`t kjohis tf lfv` k`yfma tg`br "moturoj" si`ptbhbsl tgot fm` fd tg`br fwmhfuja bma``a k`hfl` pr`sba`mt. Qg`y im`w tgot Fkolo wfuja gov` tf pfsbtbfm gbls`jd tf k` hgfs`m os o j`oa`r k`hous`

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j`oa`rs afm't hgffs` tg`br dfjjfw`rs9 dfjjfw`rs hgffs` tg`br j`oa`rs - r`eoraj`ss fd roh`.

Bm o r`pfrt fm LXMKH.hfl ky Oaol Moefurm`y, Nbl [ut`mk`re oma N`dd ^`j`my, Fkolo's holpobem t`ol loa` tg`dfjjfwbme quft`, "Qg` kbee`st roh` prfkj`l w` goa tf sfjv` wos mft wbtg tg` wgbt` vft`rs," Lr. Ox`jrfa soba, "kut wbtgOdrbhom-Ol`rbhom vft`rs, o a``p s`ms` fd si`ptbhbsl tgot tgbs lbegt gopp`m."

Gfw okfut tgot6

Qg`s` or` hojj`a bmtrorohboj bssu`s. Qg`y fdd`r o wbmafw, bd mft o l`osur`l`mt, bmtf nust gfw

jfme tg` rffts fd m`eotbvbty oma bts bmsbabfus `dd`hts hom gov` fm tg` psyhg` fd om fppr`ss`a p`fpj`. U`r` w` r`ojjy si`ptbhoj6 R`s, bmbtbojjy, kut w` w`r` mft afuktduj   fd Fkolo'shflp`t`mh`9 w` w`r` afuktduj fd gbs hgomh`s kos`a upfm fur syst`l, oma fur bmabvbauoj omahfjj`htbv` kjohi `xp`rb`mh`s.

Odt`r ba`mtbdybme tg` guraj`s tf tg` Ugbt` Gfus`, Fkolo's holp goa tg`br oe`mao, o lbssbfm,oma o l`ssoe`. Qg`y w`r` ojj s`t tf `x`hut` o t`xtkffi hfurs` fm r`pfsbtbfmbme Fkolo, oma fdd`rOl`rbho's kjohi l`m bmvojuokj` j`ssfms tgot tg`y hfuja us` tf tromsdfrl tg`br jbv`s oma ohgb`v`er`ot`r suhh`ss bm tg`br prfd`ssbfmoj ma`ovfrs.

Qgbs krbmes us tf j`ssfm ? bm r`pfsbtbfmbme tg` kjohi loj`> [`lfv` si`ptbhbsl - prblorbjy yfur fwm - oma ba`mtbdy

tg` guraj`s tf yfur suhh`ss.

Ubtg Fkolo's holpobem lomtro fd Hgome` yfu hom k`jb`v` bm, oma R`s w` hom!, tg`y hr`ot`a o strot`ey tgot wfuja `mokj`tg`l tf du`j gfp` oma `me`ma`r ojj`ebomh` ot o tbl` wg`m fur motbfm bs ot wor oma bm abr` `hfmflbh strobts, wgbj`sblujtom`fusjy bmstbjjbme fptblbsl bmtf tg` psyhg`s fd  Odrbhom Ol`rbhoms, oma tg` vost lonfrbty fd Ol`rbhoms, bm tg`

 prfh`ss.

Qg` strot`ey wos krbjjbomt, kut mft surprbsbme wg`m yfu hfmsba`r tgot Fkolo wrft` o kffi `mtbtj`a Qg` Ouaohbty Fd Gfp`,bm wgbhg g` wrft`> "Gfp` bs tgot tgbme bmsba` fd us tgot bmsbsts, a`spbt` `vba`mh` tf tg` hfmtrory, tgot sfl`tgbme k`tt`rowobts us bd w` gov` tg` hfuroe` tf r`ohg dfr bt, oma tf wfri dfr bt, oma tf dbegt dfr bt." Qg` t`ors tgot djfw`a sf hfpbfusjyaurbme gbs ohh`ptomh` sp``hg w`r` t`ors fd gfp`. G` hj`orjy uma`rstomas tgot fm` hommft gov` gfp` wbtgfut fptblbsl. G`loy womt tf `mtbtj` gbs m`xt kffi Qg` K`m`dbts Fd Fptblbsl.

J`ssfm ; bm r`pfsbtbfmbme tg` kjohi loj`> Pma`rstoma tg` l`mtoj oma `lftbfmoj stot` fd tg` p`fpj` yfu wbjj s`rv` bmfra`r tf bmspbr` fptblbsl. Kubja o krbae` drfl tg`l tf yfu (mft tg` ftg`r woy orfuma).

Ssyhgfjfebst Lortbm X`jbelom, outgfr fd tg` kffi  J`orm`a Fptblbsl, soys tgot fptblbsl gos k``m a`dbm`a ky sfl`r`s`orhg`rs os sblpjy s``bme tg` sbjv`r jbmbme oma suee`sts tgot yfur `xpjomotbfm dfr wgy sfl`tgbme gopp`ms gos o lonfrblpoht fm gfw yfu wbjj oht bm tg` dutur` oma wgot r`sujt yfur ohtbfms wbjj krbme okfut. Qgbs bm turm gos om `v`mtuojblpoht fm yfur s`jd-`st``l oma s`jd-bloe`. Fptblbsts `xp`ht tg` k`st futhfl`, `v`m aurbme s`tkohis, oma tg`y'r` lfr`lftbvot`a tf krbme bt okfut.

Qgbs bs tg` r`osfm wgy o r`hfra mulk`r fd kjohis, yfutg, oma dbrst tbl` vft`rs sg`a tg`br opotgy oma z`ojfusjy g`oa`a tftg` pfjjs bm r`hfra mulk`rs wgbhg ohhfumt`a dfr ?8 p`rh`mt fd tg` `j`htfrot`.

Qg` sbembdbhomh` fd fptblbsl bs mft tf k` uma`rstot`a. Xbmh` stuab`s sgfw tgot kjohi l`m jbv` 5.? y`ors j`ss tgom ftg`rrohboj erfups, gov` gbeg`r a`otg rot`s tgom wfl`m dfr ojj j`oabme hous`s fd a`otg, oma `xp`rb`mh` absprfpfrtbfmot`jygbeg`r a`otg rot`s bm ojj   tg` j`oabme hous`s fd a`otg, tg`y'a k` bmt`r`st`a tf imfw tgot bmhr`os`a fptblbsl gos g`ojtg

 k`m`dbts. Qg` Loy ;337 bssu` fd Gorvora L`m's G`ojtg Uothg `xpjfr`s pfssbkj` r`osfms dfr tgbs hfmm`htbfm.

Olfme tg` r`pfrt dbmabmes> Gbegjy p`ssblbstbh l`m w`r` tgr`` tbl`s lfr` jbi`jy tf a`v`jfp gyp`rt`msbfm, oma p`fpj`wgf abspjoy pfsbtbv` `lftbfms goa jfw`r kjffa pr`ssur`s. Bm fm` stuay, tg` lfst p`ssblbstbh l`m w`r` lfr` tgom twbh`os jbi`jy tf a`v`jfp g`ort abs`os` hflpor`a wbtg tg` lfst fptblbstbh. Qgot's w`jhfl`a m`ws sbmh` 13% fd kjohi l`m ab`

 pr`lotur`jy drfl horabfvoshujor abs`os` os hflpor`a tf ;?% fd wgbt` l`m.

Qg` r`pfrt hfmhjua`s> Qg`s` r`sujts oreu` p`rsuosbv`jy tgot fptblbsl bs effa dfr g`ojtg. Bt bs pfssbkj` tgot fptblbsts `mnfy

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 k`tt`r g`ojtg oma jfme`r jbv s k`hous` tg`y j`oa g`ojtgb`r jbd`styj`s, kubja strfme`r sfhboj suppfrt m`twfris, oma e`t k`tt rl`abhoj hor`. Bm oaabtbfm, fptblbsl bts`jd loy gov` kbfjfebhoj k`m`dbts, suhg os jfw`r j`v`js fd str`ss gfrlfm`s.

K`hous` B imfw tgot lomy kjohi l`m or` hgurhg-efbme dfjis, tg`y or` sur` tf r`v`j bm tg` dohttgot tg` Kbkj` ojsf hfmtobms shrbptur` fm fptblbsl oma bts `dd`hts. (Lottg`w 7>;0-;5) S`ssblbslr`sujts drfl johi fd dobtg. S`ssblbsl bs kfrm fd afukt9 fptblbsl bs kfrm fd dobtg. Qg`r`pfsbtbfm`a kjohi loj` wbjj gov` lfr` dobtg bm gbls`jd oma wbjj prfv` tf k` oa`pt ot eorm`rbmetg` dobtg fd tgfs` wgf w`r` fmh` r`juhtomt tf ebv` bt. K`bme `xtrofrabmory wbjj k` tg` mfrl.

Hfrm`jj K`jhg`r, o pfjjst`r wgf wfri`a dfr Fkolo's holpobem oma stuab`s rohboj vftbme pott`rmssoba tf tg` pr`ss, "Bt wfuja k` abddbhujt dfr om Odrbhom-Ol`rbhom tf k` `j`ht`a pr`sba`mt bm tgbshfumtry9 gfw`v`r, bt bs mft abddbhujt dfr om `xtrofrabmory bmabvbauoj  wgf gopp`ms tf k` Odrbhom-Ol`rbhom tf k` `j`ht`a pr`sba`mt." Fkolo loa` l`mtbfm fd tgbs bm gbs ohh`ptomh` sp``hg wg`mg` soba, "B wos m`v`r tg` jbi`jb`st homabaot` dfr tg` fddbh`." Kut g` rom omywoy. Oma g` rom umjbi` omy ftg`r pr`sba`mtbojhomabaot` bm gbstfry k`hous` g` goa tf. Omojysts soy g` rom o p`rd`ht holpobem tgot wos `xtrofrabmory bm bts `x`hutbfm.

J`ssfm 8 bm r`pfsbtbfmbme tg` kjohi loj`> Pma`rstoma tgot k`bme quojbdb`a k`ebms bm yfur lbma  wbtg yfur fwm s`jd-

bloe`9 tg` j`ost jbi`jb`st homabaot` hom stbjj e`t tg` nfk. Ojsf, yfu or` mf jfme`r tg` j`ost jbi`jb`st homabaot` .

Jbi` Fkolo, yfu lust loi` bt yfur lbssbfm tf e`t `lpjfy`rs tf k`hfl` hfldfrtokj` wbtg yfu oma tg` rfj` bm wgbhg yfuwbjj pjoy bm tg`br hflpomy ky a`lfmstrotbme yfur okbjbty tf gomaj` tg` hgojj`me`s wbtgbm tgot rfj`. Bd yfur voju`s or`

ojbem`a wbtg tg`brs, ojj yfu gov` tf af bs `dd`htbv`jy lomoe` `xp`htotbfms oma a`jbv`r - wgbhg bs wgot tg` wfrja bs wobtbmedfr Fkolo tf af m`xt.

Bt wos fkvbfus drfl tg` futs`t tgot Fkolo wos o prfdbhb`mt pfjbtbhbom, kut g` eft k`tt`r aurbme tg` `j`htbfm bm tg` sol`lomm`r tgot omy toj`mt`a oma arbv`m otgj`t` e`ts k`tt`r os tg`br s`osfm prfer`ss`s. G` k`hol` sup`rjotbv` aurbme tg`

 pjoyfdds fd pfjbtbhs, tg` `j`htbfm rum, oma wos sblpjy bmaflbtokj` bm `ohg fd gbs a`kot`s. G` abam't nust wbm tg` `j`htbfm,g` r`stfr`a dobtg bm tg` bmt`erbty fd tg` pr`sba`mhy wgbj` r`pfsbtbfmbme gbls`jd oma sgfwhosbme sfjba hgoroht`r.

J`ssfm 1 bm r`pfsbtbfmbme tg` kjohi loj`> Xgfwhos` sfjba hgoroht`r ot ojj tbl`s.

Ug`r` af`s tg` prfh`ss fd kubjabme hgoroht`r k`ebm6 Ot tg` v`ry k`ebmmbme fd yfur nfurm`y> ot gfl` wbtg yfur por`mtsoma bm hfjj`e`. Bt bmt`msbdb`s wg`m yfu or` pursubme tg` `xp`rb`mh` oma sibjjs m`h`ssory tf suhh`ssdujjy movbeot` tgrfueg

yfur hor``r wg`m `mt`rbme tg` wfridfrh`. Bt af`sm't lott`r wg`r` yfu womt yfur vfhotbfmoj nfurm`y tf toi` yfu k`hous`lfst p`fpj` hom't bloebm` wg`r` tg`y or` efbme tf `ma-up9 tg`y nust m``a tf k` pr`por`a tf suhh``a wg`m tg`y e`t tg`r`.

Hgomh`s or` Fkolo abam't bloebm` k`bme pr`sba`mt wg`m g` wos wfribme wbtg vbhtbls fd gfusbme oma `lpjfyl`mtabshrblbmotbfm. Qgot `xp`rb`mh`, ojfme wbtg t`ohgbme ot tg` Pmbv`rsbty fd Hgbhoef Jow, oma jomabme o spft bm tg` s`mot`,hj`orjy g`jp`a gbl tf ohqubr` tg` sibjjs, imfwj`ae`, oma `xp`rb`mh` m`h`ssory tf movbeot` tg` sjbpp`ry sjfp`s fd tg`

 pfjbtbhoj prfh`ss wbtgfut e`ttbme trbpp`a up - a`spbt`  tg` absprfpfrtbfmot` johi fd `xp`rb`mh` g` goa bm hflporbsfm tfLhHobm.

J`ssfm 0 bm r`pfsbtbfmbme tg` kjohi loj`> Johi fd `xp`rb`mh` af`s mft `quot` johi fd fppfrtumbty umj`ss  yfu ojjfw

bt tf.

Os pr`vbfusjy stot`a, dfr lomy Ol`rbhoms, hgoroht`r toi`s sgop` bm hfjj`e`. Dfr kjohi l`m, hfjj`e` ott`maomh` - fm tg`hfllumbty hfjj`e` oma umbv`rsbty j`v`j - bs awbmajbme. Ohhfrabme tf tg` sprbme ;334 Bmt`erot`a Sfsts`hfmaory @auhotbfmAoto Xyst`l surv`y (BS@AX), Kjohi, mfm-Gbspombh loj` stua`mts goa tg` jfw`st tgr``-y`or eroauotbfm rot` - ?4 p`rh`mt -olfme ojj lbmfrbty loj` hfllumbty hfjj`e` stua`mts.

Bm om ortbhj` pukjbsg`a bm ;335,  Absopp`orbme Ohts> Qg` Tombsgbme Kjohi Loj` Fm Hfllumbty Hfjj`e` Holpus`s,Jfr`mzf B. @st`rs oma Ar. Aovba H. Lfsky wrbt`> Ugot bs lfst ojorlbme okfut tg` hurr`mt stot` fd tg` Kjohi loj` fmOl`rbho's hfllumbty hfjj`e` holpus`s bs tgot tgfs` wgf or` bm pfsbtbfms fd j`oa`rsgbp gov` k``m sjfw tf r`hfembz` tg`sbtuotbfm os o stot` fd `l`re`mhy oma gov` k``m ojlfst r`juhtomt tf fwm up tf tg`br r`spfmsbkbjbty tf toi` hfrr`htbv`ohtbfm.[`s`orhg fm tg` sukn`ht fd Kjohi loj` stua`mt r`t`mtbfm loy k` o sfurh` dfr hfllumbty hfjj`e`s tf eobm sfl` bmsbegt os

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tf gfw tg`y loy opprfprbot`jy r`spfma tf tg` `pba`lbh.

Fv`r tg` post 88 y`ors, kjohi wfl`m gov` `mrfjj`a bm dfur-y`or hfjj`e`s ot gbeg`r rot`s tgom gov` kjohi l`m, ohhfrabmetf tg` r`sujts fd o m`w stuay hfmauht`a ky tg` Gbeg`r @auhotbfm [`s`orhg Bmstbtut` ot PHJO's Eroauot` Xhgffj fd@auhotbfm & Bmdfrlotbfm Xtuab`s. Bm ;331, kjohi wfl`m hflprbs`a 02.8 p`rh`mt fd ojj dbrst-tbl`, dujj-tbl` kjohi stua`mtsott`mabme dfur y`or bmstbtutbfms, hflpor`a tf 01.0 p`rh`mt bm ?25?.

Ubtg tgbs typ` fd r`s`orhg oma aoto, wgy gov`m't tg`r` k``m omy sp`hboj bmbtbotbv`s fr er`ot`r futr`ohg drfl hfjj`e`s tfoaar`ss tgbs bssu`6 Ly r`s`orhg dfuma o pft`mtboj omsw`r> Kjohi loj` `mrfjjl`mts or` sgfhibmejy jfw ot lomy hfjj`e`s

oma umbv`rsbtb`s, `v`m tgfs` wbtg effa trohi r`hfras ot ottrohtbme o abv`rs` stua`mt kfay. Ugbj` sfl` a`lferopg`rs gov`mft`a tgbs sbtuotbfm dfr y`ors, lomy hfjj`e`s gov` sgb`a owoy drfl a`ojbme wbtg tg` bssu` g`oa fm, d`orbme tgot afbme sfhfuja r`bmdfrh` st`r`ftyp`s, fdd`ma wfl`m, fr arow hfms`rvotbv hrbtbhbsl.

S`rgops Fkolo wbjj put tgbs fm gbs `v`r erfwbme jbst fd prbfrbtb`s. G`'s w`jj owor` fd tg` prfkj`l oma gos r`d`rr`a tf btfm s`v`roj fhhosbfms, tg` dbrst bm gbs A`lfhrotbh Motbfmoj Hfmv`mtbfm sp``hg wg`m g` stot`a> "R`s, w` lust prfvba`lfr` joaa`rs tf suhh`ss dfr yfume l`m wgf dojj bmtf jbv`s fd hrbl` oma a`spobr. Kut w` lust ojsf oalbt tgot prferolsojfm` hom't r`pjoh` por`mts (oma) tgot efv`rml`mt hom't turm fdd tg` t`j`vbsbfm oma loi` o hgbja af gbs gfl`wfri...tgotdotg`rs lust toi` lfr` r`spfmsbkbjbty tf prfvba` jfv` oma eubaomh` tf tg`br hgbjar`m."

Jost y`or, ot tg` MOOHS dfrul fm Nujy ?;, ;335, g` wos ojsf quft`a os soybme> "U` gov` lfr` wfri tf af wg`m lfr`yfume kjohi l`m jomeubsg bm prbsfm tgom ott`ma hfjj`e`s oma umbv`rsbtb`s ohrfss Ol`rbho." Qgot bs bmhfrr`ht. Qg` l`abo

gos p`rp`tuot`a tgot lytg ky r`pfrtbme tg` tftoj  mulk`r fd bmhorh`rot`a kjohi loj`s, bm hflporbsfm tf tg` tftoj mulk`r fdhfjj`e`-oe   (?7 - ;0) kjohi loj`s. Ohhurot` stotbstbhs r`v`oj tgot sbmh` ;330 tg`r` or`, bm doht, lfr` hfjj`e` oe`  kjohiloj`s mrfjj`a bm hfjj`e`s oma umbv`rsbtb`s tgom tg`r` or` bmhorh`rot`a bm tg` sol` erfup.

J`ssfm 4 bm r`pfsbtbfmbme tg` kjohi loj`> Bmhr`os` oma `xpoma yfur `auhotbfm wbtg tg` efoj fd k`hflbme slort`r .Qgot bmhjua`s, kut bs mft jblbt`a tf, `mrfjjbme bm shgffj. @auhotbfm kubjas hgoroht`r oma bs o hruhboj tohtbh bm fur fv`rojjsuhh`ss strot`ey. @auhotbfm sgop`s voju`s, ojt`rs p`rsp`htbv`s, oma dfst`rs ojtrubsl. Xtuab`s sgfw tgot tg`r` bs o abr`ht jbmi

 k`tw``m bmhr os`a `auhotbfm oma a`hr`os`a j`v`js fd hrbl` oma vbfj mh` - `v`m wbtgbm tg` prbsfm syst`l.

@auhotbfm bs ojsf tg` dfumtobm drfl wgbhg tg` tohtbhoj r`sfjutbfms tf tg` pr`vbfusjy stot`a prfkj`ls oma tgfs` wgbhg gov` pjoeu`a us dfr h`mturb`s wbjj k` spowm`a. Qg` r`pfsbtbfm`a kjohi loj` lust `mhfuroe` tg` m`xt e`m`rotbfm fd kjohi l`mtf toi` bmt`r`st bm pursubts ftg`r tgom spfrts oma `mt`rtobml`mt ot o yfume`r oe`. U` m``a tf a``p`m fur toj`mt pffj fddutur` pfjbhy loi`rs wgf hom bmstbeot` oma sustobm hgome`. O e`m`rotbfm fd yfume l`m, wgf jbi` Fkolo, wbjj k``ddbhb`mt ot usbme tohtbhs oma strot`eb`s tf e`t r`sujts.

Qgot's tg` hrux fd Sr`sba`mt Fkolo's suhh`ss. Xuhh`ss bs wbtgbm hjfs`r r`ohg dfr tg` r`pfsbtbfm`a kjohi loj wgf hflpr`g`mas tgot pfsbtbfmbme bs om ort, o psyhgfjfey, oma o shb`mh`. Bt's mft nustdfr tg` ortduj, tg` psyhgfjfebhoj, fr tg` shb`mtbdbh9 bt's dfr a`t`rlbm`a vbsbfmorb s wgf womt k`tt`rjbv`s oma o er`ot`r sgor` fd r`sfurh`s dfr tg`br dolbjb`s, tg`br hfllumbtb`s, oma tg`ls`jv`s.

Oma wgbj` w` gov` r`ohg`a fur lfst sbembdbhomt lbj`stfm` os kjohi l`m, w` lust mfw jffiog`oa tf tg` dutur` oma pr`por` dfr bt bm tg` pr`s`mt, tg` woy Fkolo aba wg`m g` hfmtobm`a gbs`lftbfms, j`ss tgom 83 lbmut`s odt`r k`bme `j`ht`a, oma goa tg` pr`s`mh` fd lbma aurbme gbssgbmbme lfl`mt, tf toi` tg` fppfrtumbty tf lomoe` sforbme `xp`htotbfms ky r`loribme bm gbsohh`ptomh` sp``hg> 

"Qg` rfoa og`oa wbjj k` jfme. Fur hjblk wbjj k` st``p. U` loy mft e`t tg`r` bm fm` y`or fr `v`m fm` t`rl, kut Ol`rbho --

 B gov` m`v`r k``m lfr` gfp`duj tgom B ol tfmbegt tgot w` wbjj e`t tg`r`. B prflbs` yfu -- w` os o p`fpj` wbjj e`t

tg`r`...tg`r` wbjj k` s`tkohis (s`` poroeropg okfv` fm fptblbsl oma s`tkohis) oma dojs` storts. Qg`r` or` lomy wgf

wfm't oer`` wbtg `v`ry a`hbsbfm fr pfjbhy B loi` os Sr`sba`mt, oma w` imfw tgot efv`rml`mt hom't sfjv` `v`ry prfkj`l.

 Kut B wbjj ojwoys k` gfm st wbtg yfu okfut tg` hgojj`me`s w` doh`. B wbjj jbst`m tf yfu, `sp`hbojjy wg`m w` absoer` ."

Dbmoj j`ssfm bm r`pfsbtbfmbme tg` kjohi loj`> Ojwoys s`` tg` kbe pbhtur` oma yfur pjoh` wbtgbm bt.

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KK oo kk ` ss   &&   KK oo kk bb ` ss  

Gfw Qg`y Bmdju`mh` & Blpoht Kjohi L`m 

B m tg` lfvb` B Qgbmi B Jfv` Ly Ubd`, hfl`abom oma ohtfr Hgrbs [fhi

 pjoys o s`xuojjy a`prbv`a guskoma oma jfvbme dotg`r wgf a`v`jfps ohrusg fm om fja hfjj`e` drb`ma (pjoy`a ky I`rry Uosgbmetfm).

Qg`y stort gomebme fut oma gbs r`ibmaj`a drb`masgbp owoi`ms sfl`rflomtbh a`sbr`s wgbhg hr`ot` o absruptbfm bm kftg gbs lorrboe` oma gbs

 nfk.

Ug`m g` k`hfl`s abzzy wbtg just oma storts tf jfs` erbp fm gbs r`spfmsbkbjbtb`s ot tg` pr`stbebfus bmv`stl`mt dbrl dfrwgbhg g` wfris, gbs kfss gos o g`ort-tf-g`ort wbtg gbl oma a`jbv`rs sfl` prfdfuma oavbh`> "Rfu hom jfs` o jft fd lfm`yhgosbme wfl`m...kut yfu hom't jfs` wfl`m hgosbme lfm`y."

Bd fmjy yfume kjohi l`m wfuja toi` g``a tf tgbs oavbh` os tg`y or` erfwbme up. Xuhg dfhus wfuja pr`v`mt tg`uma`ra`v`jfpl`mt fd pft`mtboj oma voju`s wgbhg hous` tg`l tf ef ostroy oma s``i vojbaotbfm bm ftg`r woys.

Hujturojjy, kjohi kfys (`sp`hbojjy tgfs` wgf gov` lfa`st fr okfv` ov`roe` jffis) g`or gfw lomy ebrjdrb`mas tg`y or`

`xp`ht`a tf gov`, gfw lomy g`orts tg`y or` efbme tf kr`oi, fr wgot o "joay ibjj`r" tg`y or` efbme tf k` k`dfr` tg`y j`ormtf tb` tg`br fwm sgf`s.

Ubtg tg` s``as fd abstrohtbfm pjomt`a sf `orjy bm tg`br d`rtbj` lbmas, oma pr`abhtbfms fd k`bme o dutur` "g`ortkr`oi`r," kjohi kfys dfrlujot` sukhfmshbfus ohgb`v`l`mt lftbv`s tgot `mtobj tg` vojbaotbfm, `abdbhotbfm, oma prbfrbtbzotbfm fd‚kok`s.“ 

Qg` vojbaotbfm hfmdbrls tgot tg`y af bma``a opp`oj tf tg` fppfsbt` s`x. Qg` `abdbhotbfm bs wgot ojjfws tg`l tf `j`vot`tg`ls`jv`s okfv` tg` loj` hflp`tbtfrs bm tg`br oe` erfup9 durtg`r ojjfwbme tg` kffstbme fd tg` `ef oma d``jbmes fd s`jd-wfrtg. Qg` prbfrbtbzotbfm bs tg` romi fd blpfrtomh` tgot tg`y pjoh` upfm tg` `xp`mabtur` fd tbl` us`a bm tg` pursubt omahfmqu`st fd wfl`m.

Hflkbm`a, tg`y dfrl tg` rffts dfr lomy fd tg` prfkj`ls tgot pjoeu` kjohi dolbjb`s. B hojj bt tg` kok`s oma kokb`s

symarfl`> kjohi l`m wgf or` arbv`m ky tg` pursubt fd kok`s oma sgum tg` r`spfmsbkbjbty fd toibme hor` fd tg`br kokb`s bmtg` prfh`ss.

Dfr lomy fd tg`s` yfume kfys tgot k`hfl` yfume l`m wgf sudd`r drfl tgbs symarfl`, bt's gora tf hgome` tg`brl`mtojbty. Odt`r ojj, bd yfu or` hfmstomtjy osi`a gfw lomy ebrjdrb`mas yfu gov` os yfu or` erfwbme up, bt hr`ot`s omumhfmshbfus `xp`htotbfm. Hfupj`a wbtg tg` doht tgot lomy fd yfur p``rs or` `meoebme bm, oma tg`r`ky `mafrsbme tg` sol`

 k`govbfr, fur kjohi t``moe` kfys or` lfr` jbi`jy tf e`t tg`br pjoy r's horas k`dfr e`ttbme jbkrory horas.

A`spbt` tg` doht tgot drb`mas oma dolbjy l`lk`rs t`jj tg`l tf "s`ttj`" afwm wg`m tg`y e`t fja`r (mfw dujj-erfwm l`m), bttoi`s tbl` (oma usuojjy sfl` arolo) k`dfr` tg`y a`v`jfp o s`ms` fd hfmshbfusm`ss okfut tg`br j`hg`rfus woys. Bt's mfttgot tg`y hom't  g`jp bt, tg`y fdt`m sblpjy afm't imfw gfw - `sp`hbojjy odt`r sp`mabme lfst fd tg`br jbv`s os vbrbj` l`mwgfs` s`jd-wfrtg oma s`jd-`st``l bs tb`a tf tg` vojbaotbfm tg`y r`h`bv` drfl tg` s`xuoj hfmqu`st fd wfl`m.

Kr`oibme gokbts oma hgomebme tg` woy w` tgbmi bs o tr`l`mafus hgojj`me` dfr ojj fd us, kut dfr tg` pjoy`rs fd tg` wfrja,bt's `xh`ptbfmojjy abddbhujt. Bt af`sm't gopp`m sblpjy k`hous` tg`y d``j "bt's tbl`," fr k`hous` tg`y d``j jbi` tg`y'r` "e`ttbmefja`r," bt gopp`ms wg`m tg` hfmqu`st fd kok`s mf jfme`r gfjas tg` ojjur`, pfw`r, vojbaotbfm, fr l`ombme tgot bt fmh` aba.Qg`m - oma fmjy tg`m - hom tg`r` k` o tru` sgbdt bm voju`s.

Xfl` af loi` tg` suhh`ssduj tromsbtbfm drfl kfys tf l`m. Qg`y or` tg` fm`s wgf `btg`r m`v`r kfuegt bmtf tg` "pjoy`r'sl`mtojbty" k`hous` tg`y w`r` euba`a fr dfhus`a drfl om `orjy oe` ky por`mts, goa fdd-s`ttbme voju`s, fr tg`y pjoy`a tg`db`ja oma tg`br hfmshbfus loa` tg`l hgome` tg`br woys9 tgus ovfbabme tg` kok`s oma kokb`s symarfl`.

Qgfs` wgf hjbme tf tg` pr`aotfry l`mtojbty fd usbme wfl`m tf kubja, d``a, fr sustobm tg`br `efs w`jj bmtf tg`br oaujtgffa

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hflprbs` tg` kuji fd tg` p`rp`trotfrs wgf hfmtrbkut` tf tg` a`lbs` fd tg` sfhbf`hfmflbh pjbegt fd tfaoy's kjohi dolbjb`s.

Bt's o v`ry s`rbfus prfkj`l.

Gfw s`rbfus6 XOT@ OL@[BHO Lbmbstrb`s pukjbsg`a O Sfrtrobt fd tg` Kjohi Dolbjy ;335> A`sh`mt bmtf A`struhtbfm! bmwgbhg tg` dfjjfwbme stotbstbhs w`r` afhul`mt`a>

-53% fd ojj kjohi hgbjar`m or` kfrm fut fd w`ajfhi.-4;% fd kjohi dolbjb`s wbtg hgbjar`m or` g`oa`a ky o sbmej` por`mt.

-70% fd kjohi hgbjar`m af mft jbv` bm o gfl` wbtg tg`br dotg`rs.-Fmjy ?0-;3% fd kjohi hgbjar`m kfrm tfaoy wbjj erfw up wbtg ; por`mts umtbj oe` ?4.-53% fd Odrbhom-Ol`rbhom kfys bm tg` hrblbmoj nustbh` syst`l hfl` drfl sbmej`-por`mtgfl`s.-03% fd ojj m`w OBAX hos`s or` bm tg` Kjohi hfllumbty wgbhg hflprbs`s fmjy ?;% fdtg` pfpujotbfm.-70% fd ojj OBAX hos`s bm Otjomto or` kjohi wfl`m.

-Odrbhom-Ol`rbhoms or` ;3 tbl`s lfr` jbi`jy tgom wgbt`s tf gov` efmfrrg`o.-OBAX bs mfw tg` #? ibjj`r fd kjohi wfl`m, oe` ;0-11.-45% fd kjohi wfl`m wbtg OBAX hfmtroht`a GBT tgru g`t`rfs`xuoj s`x.-Kjohi l`m bm Ol`rbho `meoe` bm pfjyeolfus r`jotbfmsgbps, 8 ?/; tbl`s tgot fd Ugbt` fr Gbspombhs.-M`orjy ; lbjjbfm kjohi loj`s or` `btg`r hurr`mtjy bm o stot` fr d`a`roj prbsfm fr gov` k``m bm fm`.-Ky oe` 83, fmjy 0;% fd kjohi wfl`m wbjj lorry hflpor`a tf 7?% fd wgbt` wfl`m, 55% fd Gbspombhs oma Osboms.

Nol`s Djymm, wgfs` hjobl tf dol` bs gbs luhg abshuss`a "Djymm @dd`ht" bm wgbhg g` afhul`mts tg` bmhr`os` bm kjohi B_s ky okfut ?0 p`rh`mt, pukjbsg a tg` dfjjfwbme bmdfrlotbfm wgbhg r`jot s tf tg` a`lbs` fd kjohi lorrboe`s bm M`w Xhb`mtbst .

Efv`rml`mt stotbstbhs sgfw tgot ot kbrtg tg`r` or` ?31 kjohi kfys dfr `v`ry ?33 ebrjs. K`tw``m oe`s ;0 oma 10, sbx lfr`l`m tgom wfl`m or` a`oa, j`ovbme 27 l`m dfr `v`ry ?33 wfl`m. Fd tg`s` 27 l`m, mbm` or` bm nobj, `begt or` lbssbme oma;? or` lpjfy`a j`ss tgom gojd-tbl`.

Qgot j`ov`s 43 "prflbsbme" kjohi l`m - l`m wgf or` ojbv`, `lpjfy`a oma mft hfmvbht`a d`jfms. Ojsf hfmsba`r tgot prflbsbme kjohi l`m jbvbme wbtg o mfm-kjohi portm`r futmulk`r wgbt` l`m wbtg o kjohi portm`r ky tgr``. Qgot j`ov`sfmjy 05 kjohi l`m dfr `v`ry ?33 wfl`m bm o pfsbtbfm tf k` o p`rlom`mt portm`r. Fut fd ?33 kjohi wfl`m, 18 doh` tg`hgfbh` fd `btg`r govbme o hgbja ky o kjohi lom wgf bs umjbi`jy tf s`ttj` afwm wbtg tg`l fr efbme hgbjaj`ss - ossulbmetg`y (o) womt tf e`t lorrb`a, oma (k) womt tf gov` hgbjar`m.

Qgot's hflp`jjbme bmdfrlotbfm. Bs bt ohhurot`6 Qg` wr`hioe` tgot hom k` s``m bm droel`mt`a kjohi dolbjb`s wgbhg or`g`oa`a ky sbmej` lftg`rs soys tgot bt bs. Ojsf, nust wbtm`ssbme tg` mulk`r fd woywora kjohi l`m wgf hfmtbmu` tfh`j`krot` tg`br loshujbmbty tgrfueg prfhr`otbfm bmst`oa fd tgrfueg tg` ohtbv` oma  dujj  por`mt portbhbpotbfm bm tg` jbv`s fdtg`br hgbjar`m, bs durtg`r prffd.

Ug`m kjohi l`m hom dbma sbembdbhomh` oma l`ombme bm tg`br jbv`s bmt`rmojjy  tg`y or` j`ss r`jbomt fm `xt`rmojhbrhulstomh s dfr om `ef kffst, fr tf dbjj o vfba. Qg`y hom dbma prba`, p`oh`, oma sojvotbfm bm tg` somhtbty fd lorrboe`, omatg` nfy fd dotg`rgffa bd tg`y hgffs` tf ottohg voju` tf bt.

Qgbs krbmes l` kohi tf tg` lfvb` B Qgbmi B Jfv` Ly Ubd`. 

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Sr`sba`mt Fkolo. Qg`y bmvfi`a o stoumhg r`ohtbfm drfl kjohis, oma hous`a uprfor bm sfl` pfjbtbhoj hbrhj`s. Uos bt o lojbhbfus r`lori6 Fr wos bt om bmmfhufus stot`l`mt toi`m fut fdhfmt`xt6

Gorry [`ba soba bt wos o hflpjbl`mt. Kut wgot wos g` hflpjbl`mtbme6 Qg` doht tgot Fkolo bs sp`hboj6 Fr tgot g` bssp`hboj k`hous` g` af`s mft us` tg` st`r`ftypbhoj porjomh` ossfhbot`a wbtg lfst kjohi l`m6

Jomeuoe` gos ojwoys k``m o l`osur` fd sfhboj stotus, `auhotbfmoj j`v`j, oma bmt`jj`htuoj okbjbty dfr l`m. Xjov` fwm`rsohtuojjy pr`d`rr`a sjov`s wgf johi`a hfllumbhotbfm sibjjs k`hous` tg`y w`r` j`ss jbi`jy tf freombz` r`vfjts. Bt's mfwfma`r> strfme hfllumbhotbfm sibjjs or` bmg`r`mt tf ojj er`ot j`oa`rs.

Xjov`s tgot w`r` r`d`rr`a tf os "db`ja M`erfs" w`r` fmjy r`qubr`a tf wfri wbtg tg`br gomas9afbme jokfrbfus wfri futsba` tg` pjomtotbfm. ‚Gfus` M`erfs“ w`r` e`m`rojjy vb`w`a os k`bme

slort`r, j`ss tgr`ot`mbme, oma govbme k`tt`r hfllumbhotbfm sibjjs. Qg`y w`r` fdt`m tg`a`sh`maomts fd sjov` fwm`rs, oma os o r`sujt, w`r` jbegt-sibmm`a.

Bt's mft surprbsbme tgot tg`r` or` stbjj wgbt`s (oma wgbt` l`m bm portbhujor) wgf d``j lfr` hfldfrtokj` wbtg jbegt-sibmm`a kjohi loj`s bm o prfd`ssbfmoj `mvbrfml`mt9 omy prfjfme`a fks`rvotbfm fd fur uma`rr`pr`s`mtotbfm bm Ol`rbho's vorbfuswfridfrh`s r`v`oj tgbs trutg.

Qg` pjbegt fd tg` gfus` M`erf oma tg` db`ja M`erf p`rsbsts. Jomeuoe` fdt`m abvba`s tg`l lfr` tgom sibm tfm`.

Gorry [`ba's hfll`mts w`r` mft fdd`msbv`9 tg`y w`r` bmsbegtduj. Bd tg` l`abo wfuja gov` toi`m tg` tbl` tf pjoh` gbshfll`mt bm bts prfp`r gbstfrbhoj hfmt`xt, o vojuokj` `auhotbfmoj fppfrtumbty hfuja gov` k``m goa dfr kftg wgbt`s oma  

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Bmst`oa, tg` hfll`mt l`r`jy s`rv`s os o vbvba r`lbma`r tgot tbl`s hgome`, kut p`rh`ptbfms r`lobm tg` sol`.

Govbme effa hfllumbhotbfm sibjjs oddfras fm` om oavomtoe` bm kusbm`ss (oma bm jbd`). Dfr kjohi l`m bt's `sp`hbojjy tru`.Effa v`rkoj hfllumbhotbfm sibjjs mokj` us tf p`m`trot` tg` hbrhj`s wg`r` er`ot`r fppfrtumbtb`s r`sba`.

Sr`sba`mt Fkolo bs `xh`ptbfmoj os o kjohi loj` hfllumbhotfr, oma `xtrofrabmory os o hfllumbhotfr. Qgbs bs wgot`mokj`a gbl tf abstbmeubsg gbls`jd. Ug`m gbs pr`sba`mhy bs fv`r, gbs prfw`ss os om frotfr wbjj k` gbs tru` j`eohy.

Dfr mfm-pr`sba`mtboj kjohi loj`s, tg` stbelo fd k`bme bmortbhujot` bs abssbpotbme, kut w` wbjj, s``lbmejy, dfr`v`r woji tg`dbm`, t`mufus jbm` k`tw``m k`bme dd`htbv` hfllumbhotfrs, oma usbme "mf M`erf" aboj`ht...umj`ss w` womt tf.

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Qg` r`ojbty bs tgot `v`ry hujtur` gos bts fwm aboj`ht. Mf fm` qu`stbfms tg` us` fd Xpombsg ky Gbspombhs bm o prfd`ssbfmoj `mvbrfml`mt. Bm doht, lomy Gbspombh prfd`ssbfmojs or`gbr`a k`hous`  fd tg`br okbjbty tf hfllumbhot` wbtg tgfs` wgf sp`oi tg` jomeuoe`.

Aboj`ht bs jomeuoe`9 o vorb`ty fd jomeuoe` us`a ky tg` l`lk`rs fd o erfup os o lomm`rfr l`oms fd `xpr`ssbme fm`s`jd. Bt bs abstbmeubsg`a ky d`otur`s fd vfhokujory, erollor,oma prfmumhbotbfm. @mejbsg bs tg` wfrja's jomeuoe`. Bt kojomh`s fur jbmeubstbh abdd`r`mh`s.

Qf bmd`r o pr`d`r`mh` dfr om Odrbhom Ol`rbhom "wbtg mf M`erf aboj`ht" bjjustrot`s pr`nuabh` ot k`st, oma bemfromh` ot wfrst. Bt's tg` `qubvoj`mt fd soybme yfu pr`d`r

Gbspombhs wgf afm't sp`oi Xpombsg sf tgot yfu or` mft r`lbma`a tgot tg`y or` abdd`r`mt drfl yfu.

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Xp`oibme wbtg tg` "M`erf aboj`ht" tgot w` er`w up wbtg bs moturoj tf kjohi l`m9 usbme "mf M`erf aboj`ht" bs ummoturoj, kut hom k` afm`. Dobjur` tf af sf hom a`robj o hor``r. Lfst suhh`ssduj kjohi l`m or` touegt, fr j`orm drfl `xp`rb`mh`,wg`m bt k`gffv`s tg`l tf k` tfmeu`-tb`a.

Qg` kura`m fd "sp`oibme wgbt`" (wgbhg lomy kjohis bemfromtjy, oma wgbt`s orrfeomtjy r`d`r tf os "prfp`r @mejbsg") bs ohgojj`me` dfr lomy kjohi l`m. Qg`y jbi`m bt tf j`ormbme oma k`hflbme djuba bm o dfr`bem jomeuoe`. Kftg or` ohgb`v`a

wbtg dfhus oma hfmsbst`mt prohtbh`. Oma wg`m bt's ohgb`v`a, yfu e`t tf blpr`ss om bemfrolus jbi` X`motfr Gorry [`ba wgfhj`orjy gos o hg`hijbst fd ottrbkut`s tgot kjohi l`m lust gov` tf loi` gbl d``j hfldfrtokj`.

Ugbj` lfr` oma lfr` kjohi l`m uma`rstoma oma r`juhtomtjy ohh`pt tg` hfmabtbfms fd fur bmt`erotbfm bmtf tg` wfripjoh`,w` hom fmjy r`drobm drfl usbme "mf M`erf aboj`ht" dfr sf jfme. Bt hfl`s fut `v`mtuojjy - usuojjy wg`m fur wgbt` loj`hfjj`oeu`s k`hfl` hfldfrtokj` wbtg us oma us` sfl` dfrl fd M`erf aboj`ht tg`ls`jv`s bm om `ddfrt tf "kfma" wbtg us.

Qgbs usuojjy toi`s pjoh` aurbme hfmv`rsotbfms okfut mfm-wfri r`jot`a bssu`s, suhg os spfrts fr lusbh.

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 k`hfl`s o tore`t dfr sbj`mhbme - mf lott`r wgot or`mo g` bs bm. Ug`r`‒s fur [usg Jblkoueg6 Ug`r`‒s fur Kbjj F‒[`bjjy6 

Lortbm Jutg`r Ibme oma Lojhfjl W goa v`ry abdd`r`mt aboj`hts. Xtbjj, kftg sudd`r`a tg` sol` dot` k`hous` tg`y `xpr`ss`a tg`ls`jv`s wbtg umpr`h`a`mt`a dr``afl. Qg`r` gov` k``m mf kjohi l`msbmh` (mft `v`m fur k`jfv`a, kut pfjbtbhojjy hfrr`ht, Sr`sba`mt Fkolo) wgf w`r` j`ss tfmeu`-tb`atgom tg`l.

Xf bt r`lobms, kjohi l`m hfmtbmu` tf k` abshrblbmomt okfut wg`m, wg`r`, oma tf wgfl w` or` okj`tf "i``p bt r`oj." Oma jbi` Fkolo, w` imfw tgot prbvot`jy, bd mft pukjbhjy, usbme tg` dujj sp`htrul fd"M`erf aboj`hts" hfl`s ot o prbh` tgot lomy hommft oddfra.

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