Running head: TELLING THE DANCER FROM THE DANCE 1 Alfred Adler and Martin Buber: Telling the Dancer from the Dance A Master’s Project Presented to The Faculty of the Adler Graduate School _______________ In Partial Fulfillment of the Requirements for The Degree of Master of Arts in Adlerian Counseling and Psychotherapy ________________ By: Ives K. Wittman ________________ Chair: Roger Ballou Member: Herb Laube ________________ April 2016
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Running head: TELLING THE DANCER FROM THE DANCE
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Alfred Adler and Martin Buber: Telling the Dancer from the Dance
A Master’s Project
Presented to
The Faculty of the Adler Graduate School
_______________
In Partial Fulfillment of the Requirements for
The Degree of Master of Arts in
Adlerian Counseling and Psychotherapy
________________
By:
Ives K. Wittman
________________
Chair: Roger Ballou
Member: Herb Laube
________________
April 2016
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Abstract
This project argues for Alfred Adler’s study of the soul in the creative force, claiming of
inferiorities, unity and holism, and social interest as expressions of spirituality and a striving for
perfection in a similar fashion to Martin Buber’s I-Thou philosophy of dialogue and his
interpretations of Hasidism as a way to re-vision Judaism. Adler’s study of the soul and Buber’s
I-Thou philosophy create a spiritual subjectivity that grounds the therapeutic relationship
between therapist and client. This project demonstrates through a historical perspective of Adler
and Buber’s lives and a comparison of Individual Psychology to Buber’s Hasidism and the
I-Thou relationship how Adler’s psychology and Buber’s spirituality and his views of
psychotherapy utilize an intersubjective and spiritual space for shared movement and an innate
striving to overcome in the therapist and client relationship.
deepened the meaning of his psychology – one of raw power and energy in keeping with Adler’s
personality and his approach to work and social relations. His primal goals resonate with a
psychology of the soul in contrast to more popularized Adlerian goals of security, belonging, and
significance. In an ironic twist, the contrasting essence between the primal Adler and the
popularized Adler suggests Individual Psychology’s primal dualism and struggle for unification
of its own soul. For Buber and Adler, the primal and subjective cut to the core of one’s spiritual
essence, being, and healing.
Summary
Comparisons of Judaism and Individual Psychology offer a view of the remarkable
similarities in philosophical, ethical, and practical approaches of the Jewish religion and Adler’s
psychology. An analysis of Buber’s interpretations of Judaism through Hasidism viewed
through an Adlerian lens further elucidates Individual Psychology’s kinship to the Jewish spirit
and provides a lived experience, on the macro-level, of Adlerian theory in the Jewish spirit
world. In the end, this investigation furthers the argument that Adler’s psychology and Buber’s
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Hasidism intersected at the soul. This offers a spiritual essence from which to draw in the
therapeutic setting.
Part 3: Therapeutic Implications: Buber’s I-Thou and Adlerian Therapy
As time went on, Buber’s early Hasidism evolved into a more mature Hasidism beyond
mystical interpretations. Along the way, Buber developed his I-Thou relations that became the
basis for his philosophy of dialogue to create what Kramer (2012) identified as dialogical
spirituality.
The final section of this project moves the discussion to a brief literature survey of
spirituality in the Adlerian community, an entry point of connection between Adler and Buber.
This is constructed through the ideas of gemeinschaftsfgefühl by German sociologist, Fernand
Tonnies. From there, the project tackles striving to overcome, creative force, and baseline
definitions of spirituality from the writer’s perspective; Buber’s dialogical spirituality as
informed by I and Thou; I and Thou and its therapeutic applications; and intersubjectivity. The
section concludes by synthesizing the four-stage process of Adlerian therapy with Buber’s I-thou
relational philosophy and dialogue and the spiritual space created for client therapist self-
discovery, healing, and change.
Adlerian Community and Spirituality – Brief Literature Survey
This survey of Adlerian literature around spirituality does not claim to be an all-
encompassing review. It moves the project’s conversation beyond Adler’s Individual
Psychology and Buber’s Hasidism and Judaism to conversations around spirituality within the
Adlerian community and, eventually, to Buber’s I-Thou relationship and philosophy of dialogue.
Mansager (2000) examined Adlerian theory as a way to understand religion and
spirituality from four perspectives: striving, integration, self-transcendence, and ultimate value.
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Mansager (2000) argued that Individual Psychology considers “striving to be the essence of life”
where “movement constitutes life” (p. 380). This movement consists of striving to “belong” and
striving for “perfection.” (p. 381). With regard to integration, Adlerians embrace the philosophy
of holism originally developed by Jan C. Smuts. This consists of an “understanding the
complexity of life without reducing it to opposites” (Mansager, 2000, p. 381) and considers
human beings already a unity as whole beings. Mansager (2000) compared the developing child
who uses “dualistic” (p. 382) constructs to move through life as opposed to the well-adjusted
adult who finds integrative constructs to move through life. Individual Psychology’s take on
holism is reflected in its both-and rather than either-or mode. Adlerians believe dualistic
thinking leads to lower well-being. It goes so far as to suggest this mode of thinking results in
prejudice, racism, sexism, and bigotry. For Mansager (2000), spirituality encompasses “social
embeddedness” (p. 383) as a way to derive meaning. Contributing to the community in useful
ways brings about transcendence in the individual with movement towards gemeinschaftsfgefühl.
Gold and Mansager (2000a) argued against Dreikurs and Mosak’s conception of
spirituality as a fifth task. They concluded that, despite Adler’s “deep appreciation for human
transcendence and the mystery of life” (p. 275), his psychology did not intend to view living in
terms of religious and spiritual striving per se but rather in terms of “social feeling” and terms of
better “adaption to life” (p. 275). In this way, Gold and Mansager (2000a) drew a distinct line
between Individual Psychology and spirituality.
Cheston (2000) viewed encouragement as another way to view spirituality from the
Adlerian point of view. Encouragement, of primary importance in Adlerian psychology, must be
engaged by and with others. In this way, Cheston (2000) stressed relationship as a key
ingredient to encouragement and not only a temporary but an enduring relationship: “The idea
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that spirituality is a relationship is a model of Adler’s premise that humans are naturally social
beings who need to be understood within that context” (p. 301). Cheston (2000) refocused ideas
of social interest, community feeling, and meaning from the social to the interpersonal.
Powers (2003), in his brief comments on religion and spirituality, suggested Individual
Psychology viewed one’s subjectivity through creativity where fictions provide the impetus for
perception and understanding. Using this construct, Powers (2003) named the two Adlerian
primary feelings embodied in social embeddedness to be “inferiority feeling” and “community
feelings” (p. 84). Rather than viewing these feelings as part of the human “subjective,” they are
basic features of the “primal” human condition and its movement (p. 84), weaving a “double
helix . . . of all religious feeling” (p. 85). Powers’s (2003) remarks invoked the primal Adler as
an integral component of spirituality.
In an effort to rekindle Adler’s psychology of the soul, O’Connell (1997) argued for an
Adlerian inspired psychospirituality that juxtapositioned “self-esteem and social interest” with
“spirit and soul” (p. 39). O’Connell (1997) challenged modern healthcare institutions as part and
parcel of an ego driven society, its preoccupation with competition, and its dualisms. Individual
Psychology, with its integrity of soul and spirit, offers a way to promote personal innate
worthiness and love through “compassion” and “wisdom” (p. 37). O’Connell (1997) extoled the
virtues of Adlerian psychology and its humanitarian stance as holistic, whole, and holy.
Adlerians can provide a counterforce to the institutionalization of contemporary living that
wishes to divide and conquer the human soul.
Polanski (2002) acknowledged growing interest in the links between spirituality and
counseling and psychotherapy. Spirituality is “subjective,” “personal,” and “transcendental” and
the institution of religion is a religious expression of spirituality (p. 127). Polanski (2002)
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discussed the movement of an individual from compensatory behaviors and overcoming of organ
inferiorities to striving for superiority and the “desire to belong” through social interest to a
desire for meaning in which, “Feelings of inferiority become the impetus for developmental
movement or the origin of all striving” (p. 131). The individual strives in a unified fashion
through “thinking, feeling, willing, and acting” (p. 46). One of the more noteworthy points
Polanski (2002) made was “the propensity of the individual from the first moments of life to
establish contact with another individual” (p. 133). From this point of view, all human life from
its inception seeks relationship in a striving to overcome feelings of inferiority.
And finally, Leak (2006) offered an empirical study on the connections between social
interest and spirituality. Topics included self-transcendence; the relationship between personal,
religious, and psychological lives; and the expression of community feeling. Leak (2006)
confirmed spirituality as broad and open in contrast to religion’s rigid and narrow ideological
confines. Spirituality rather than religion encouraged increased community feeling and social
interest. These in turn established greater life meaning and increased “subject well-being”
(p. 63).
Within the modern day Adlerian community, Individual Psychology and its applications
for spirituality in therapy confirm the relevancy of Adler’s psychology. Furthermore, many of
the concepts and ideas around spirituality will be seen in Buber’s I-Thou Philosophy. These
include striving, movement, subjectivity, meaning, innate social embeddedness, desire for
relational connection, wholeness, creativity, community and transcendence; however, there still
needs be an entry point at which Adler’s psychology of the soul and striving to overcome meets
Buber’s I-Thou philosophy.
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Adler and Buber Meeting Through Ferdinand Tonnies and Gemeinschaftsgefühl
This project chooses as the entry point to pull together striving to overcome and the
I-Thou relationship in the work of Ferdinand Tonnies, a German sociologist from the late 1880s.
Tonnies’s work with gemeinschaftsgefühl influenced Adler’s conception of community feeling
and social interest and Buber’s vision of Jewish community and I-Thou philosophy.
Buber came under the sway of Tonnies’s ideas in 1909, a few years earlier than Adler.
Tonnies became popular among young Jews before and after World War I in their attempts to
rebuild community (Zank & Braiterman, 2014). He focused on the changing social landscapes
of Germany in the late 1800s from agrarian communities to complex modern industrial states and
wanted to know how to preserve community feeling in the face of modernity. Buber reworked
Tonnies’s ideas into his political, psychological, and social philosophies. To many, Tonnies’s
ideas not only addressed community and the impersonal, but also spoke of Geselleschaft and
Gmeinschaft as respectfully “the substitution of institutional ties for organic ties” (Meyer, 2001,
p. 259). Buber reinterpreted Gemeinschaft’s community feeling as a religious quality. In 1919,
he wrote, “A great yearning for Gemenschaft courses through souls of soulful people at this
life-moment in Western culture” (Meyer, 2001, p. 259). Tonnies’s influence on Buber found its
way into the I-Thou philosophy of dialogue (Silberstein, 1990) as well as his ideas of community
feeling and wholeness for the Jewish community.
Like Buber, Tonnies’s ideas are reflected in Adler’s concept of gemeinschaftsfgefühl.
Angioli and Kruger (2015) described how Tonnies published his first book in the late 1880s
titled Gemeinshaft und Gesellschaft, translated as Community and Civil Society. In his book,
Tonnies analyzed Gemeinschaft, “community feeling,” and its opposite, Gesellschaft,
“impersonal, transactional relationships” (p. 244). Tonnies’s early works failed to gain notoriety
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until 1912, the same year Adler came to gemeinschaftsfgefühl. It is unclear if Adler had read
Tonnies, for no mention is made of him.
For several years, Adler worked with the concept gemeinschaftsgefühl until he introduced
it as the primary measurement of well-being for his Individual Psychology. According to
Angioli and Kruger (2015), after World War I, Adler, captivated by the “critical healing force”
(p. 244) of community then recognized social interest as an eternal “striving for a community”
(p. 245).
The synthetic outcome that envisages a kind of coexistence of gemeinschaft and
gesellshaft in the modern industrial state is perhaps the most important implication for
understanding the context and climate of Adler’s development . . . Adler had viewed
social feeling as a kind of limiting force that restricted or counterbalanced the more
primal Will to Power – the force that lay behind the phenomenology of growth, striving,
and purpose. (Angioli & Kruger, 2015, pp. 243-244)
With Adler’s elevation of gemeinschaftsfgefühl after World War I, he confirmed his conviction
that psychology was in fact the study of the soul in community feeling. Adler further refined the
relationship between striving and community feeling.
Community feeling as a counterweight to Adler’s primal striving intersects with Buber’s
primal I-It and the divine I-Thou relationship. More importantly, Angioli and Kruger (2015)
indicated that Adler, in speeches from 1913, stated “unequivocally the socially embedded nature
of upward striving and subordination of that striving to the feeling of community” (p. 248). With
this statement, Adler implicitly lays out a construct similar to Buber’s I-Thou. Striving to
overcome may be viewed in Adlerian terms as the primal force behind the I-It relationship.
Community feeling then becomes the creative force behind the I-Thou relationship. Striving to
overcome can be viewed as an I-It construct that may also include the I-Thou since striving to
overcome in socially useful ways does not always engage the I-Thou relationship.
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Tonnies provided a bridge connecting Adler and Buber through gemeinschaftsfgefühl.
With Tonnies, Adler and Buber met philosophically on common ground in their quest to
understand social relations. Whereas Adler applied Tonnies to a soul-centered psychology of
striving to overcome and gemeinschaftsfgefühl in the social realm, Buber applied Tonnies’s ideas
of community to the personal realm of religion and spirituality in the I-Thou relationship.
Taking this connection between the two men to the next level, this project proposes the only
extensive Adlerian analysis of Adler and Buber.
Adler and Buber Meeting Through Jääskeläinen (2000)
At this point, it is important to acknowledge Jääskeläinen (2000), the only extensive
scholarly comparison of Adler and Buber and the inclusion of two noteworthy and rare instances
of Adler (1930) and Ansbacher (1978) mentioning the I-It and I-Thou relationship in Individual
Psychology. The mention of I-Thou by Adler (1970) was an inadvertent nod to a spiritual
element implicit in Individual Psychology. Jääskeläinen (2000) compared Individual
Psychology to Buberian philosophy, a large part of which covers Buber’s concept of I-Thou.
Jääskeläinen (2000) considered Adler’s gemeinschaftsfgefühl and Buber’s I-Thou as
companionable ideas for explaining human relations. For Jääskeläinen (2000), the I-Thou
relationship entailed the I-It and I-Thou of which the I-It is “detachment,” “objectivity,” and
“observation” (p. 144) and love serves as the “primal paradigm” for the I-Thou. Adler viewed
love from a different perspective, but his understanding was for all intents and purposes similar
to Buber’s. Social interest intersects with the I-Thou since both concepts prioritize human
relationships (Jääskeläinen, 2000). Jääskeläinen (2000) also reviewed Adler and Buber’s
connection to Tonnies as a way to illustrate the alignment between social interest and I-Thou,
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and then followed with a brief discussion of the intersubjective nature of the I-thou, tying it to
Adlerian notions of empathy and understanding.
From here, Jääskeläinen (2000), discussed Buber’s dialogue in a similar vein to Adler’s
ideas of cooperation, taking into account that Individual Psychology is “a psychology based on
values” (p. 149) that must include an I-It relationship and I-thou dialogue. Jääskeläinen (2000)
identified the similarity between Buber’s I-Thou and Adler’s community feeling through
meaning and transcendence and the metaphor of “feeling at home,” such that social interest goes
beyond “individuality. . . to a feeling with the whole” (Jääskeläinen, 2000, p. 150). For Buber,
this also included an “inborn drive for social contact” (p. 145) and relationship.
At this point, Jääskeläinen (2000) mentioned a paper published in 1930 in which Adler,
in a rare instance, mentioned the I-Thou relationship in his discussion of the fundamentals of
Individual Psychology: “the I-Thou relationship, the productivity for the community and the
relationship of the sexes are never private matters but problems of the community” (p. 37).
Jääskeläinen, (2000) contended that Buber would have taken issue with Adler’s assertion of the
I-Thou not being a private matter but one solely of community. In addition to citing Adler
(1930), Jääskeläinen, (2000) included a reference by Ansbacher (1978) that suggested Buber’s
I-Thou relationship rather than the I-It relation fits into the category of social interest.
In analyzing the therapeutic implications, Jääskeläinen, (2000) asserted that Adler and
Buber concurred on the “primordial importance” (p. 150) of relationship and social connection;
therefore, therapeutic techniques turn out to be secondary to the therapist and client relationship.
For Buber, the I-Thou was an unworkable paradigm in therapy because the relationship is not
mutual. For Adlerians, Jääskeläinen (2000) contended the client-therapist relationship can
realize an I-Thou relationship through “cooperation” and “collaboration” (p. 151).
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In conclusion, Jääskeläinen (2000) saw Adler and Buber emphasizing relationship over
technique and I-Thou as social interest and the differences between the men in I-Thou vs the
human community, social interest vs. personal existence, and social and cosmic life vs individual
and God.
As a point of clarity, Jääskeläinen (2000) focused on a broad range of topics, which this
project also considers tangentially. This project now turns its attention to the creative force,
striving to overcome, the I-Thou relationship, and the spiritual space created between the
therapist and client to facilitate the client healing in the four stages of Adlerian therapy.
Adler’s Striving to Overcome and Creative Force and Spirituality
As this project progresses, Adler’s striving to overcome in upward striving for
superiority, completion, and-or perfection towards community feeling will be seen in alignment
with Buber’s I and Thou philosophy of human movement towards “expansion” and “connexion”
in his I-It and I-Thou paradigms for relations (Buber, 1937/1958, p. 110). This project also
recognizes the innateness of striving to overcome as a goal in accordance with Adler’s beliefs
(Duba, 2012). For Adler, overcoming covered a broad spectrum of strivings towards a goal that
encourages positive actions and behaviors as well as those “to overcome imperfections and
achieve completion [and] the urge toward perfection” (Duba, 2012, p. 220; McBrien, 2012).
Striving to overcome is considered in the I-It relation in part because overcoming may not occur
in socially useful ways that encompass the I-Thou relationship. One instance may be a neurotic
pattern of striving that results in a superiority complex.
Initially, Adler mentioned upward striving in the context of power. In his 1932 lecture
“Personality as a Self-Consistent Unity,” Adler contended that overcoming had been
misunderstood with striving for power, the latter a more “concrete formulation,” while the
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former is a “madness” (p. 63) in individuals, not in Individual Psychology. In this regard,
community feeling acts as a bulwark against striving to overcome as a striving for power gone
awry in the neurotic and-or psychotic. In this phenomenon, the therapist must identify the
movement and direction of the individual in concert with his or her goal as useful or useless,
normal or neurotic, and self-interested or socially interested. For Buber’s I-Thou relationship,
movement and direction also become important landmarks for interhuman, human, and divine
connection.
In addition to movement and direction, it is essential to understand the primal importance
of striving to overcome. Adler infused Individual Psychology with consequence and immediacy
and called upon the perilous and precious nature of human life. He regarded evolutionary goals
of self-preservation and life development as primary to the human condition in a continuous
striving to overcome in which “there hangs also the threat of damage, of listlessness – of death”
(Peluso, 2012, p. 63; Watts, 2012). With Adler’s social Darwinism in mind, one can extend
these goals to continuous active adaptation, procreation, and victorious contact with the external
world (Watts, 2012). These goals reflected the temperament of Adler’s psychological approach
informed by Adler’s childhood struggles, vigor and resilience, and pragmatic outlook. Like
Adler, Buber’s personal and professional struggles and strivings led him to savor the primal in
life. He fearlessly searched for the consequences of human social and spiritual interactions that
challenged and elevated the core of one’s being.
Striving to overcome is a response to an inferiority feeling and overcoming social
difficulties in movement from a felt-minus to a felt-plus (Duba, 2012). According to Adler, this
minus-plus movement occurs “simultaneously” in goal directed behavior at the behest of the
individual’s creative force: “the creative force at hand in the psychic life which is identical to
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the life force . . . arranges: it has the ability to look ahead and see what it must do” (Peluso, 2012,
p. 63). Not only does the psychic life include the creative force of the life force, it also includes
the ego, thoughts, feelings, and actions that originate from “psychic impulses” (p. 62). The
coupling of striving to overcome with a creative force and its ability to discern or intuit a future
path bespeak of spiritual and transcendent qualities. By lumping together the creative force, life
force, and ego under the umbrella of the psychic life that Adler considered “the whole of the
individual,” (p. 227) Adler remained unclear if he was building towards a matrix for not only a
psychological and social force, but of a spiritual force as well (Duba, 2012; Peluso, 2012). In
addition, Adler’s reference to the wholeness of the individual is a critical concept in Buber’s
I-Thou relationship where the I-Thou as opposed to the I-It relationship occurs with persons who
bring the wholeness of their being into dialogue.
Although the conversation about whether or not Adler considered spirituality a life task
or imbued his psychology with spiritual elements has been debated vigorously in the Adlerian
community, it remains an issue not resolved (Gold & Mansager, 2000a; Mansager & Gold,
2000b, Mansager et al., 2000; Reardon, 2014). For the purposes of this project, the tripartite
concepts of creative force, life force, and striving to overcome will be considered spiritual
corollaries to be drawn upon by clients and Alderian therapists in the healing encounter of the
I-Thou relationship.
Definitions of spirituality. In light of Adler’s life force and creative force as spiritual
corollaries, the writer builds on these concepts and sets forth definitions of spirituality. Going
forward, this is inclusive of but not limited to something ineffable that encompasses a personal
connection to a universal source, creator, or spirit through which one recognizes his or her innate
self-worth and a sense of grounding, beliefs, values, meaning, purpose, and connection to the
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world and his or her immediate community. Religion offers a dogma and structure through
which one practices spirituality. Spiritual practices cultivate within a person an internal and
external transcendence to a force or persona or power beyond his or herself. Faith in a power
greater than one’s self provides direction and grace. Spirituality and faith may show up in
sudden and unannounced intuitive thoughts, urges, hunches, revelations, or shifts of perspective.
This definition also draws on Kramer (2012) and his definition of Buber’s Hasidic
spirituality, one that encompasses Buber’s dialogical spirituality and I-Thou philosophy: “the
profound reciprocity between the human spirit and the divine spirit. Spirituality involves an
ongoing partnership with the invisible, unprovable, insubstantial yet creatively revealing and
redeeming spirit who penetrates into our lives” (p. xix). For Buber, God always enters and
continuously shapes interhuman relationships.
In terms of Individual Psychology, Mansager (2000) offered a definition of healthy
spirituality:
Spirituality is the individual’s conscious movement from a felt-minus to that of a
fictional-plus, holistically experienced as a unifying factor not rooted in self-boundedness
but in community feeling aimed at full participation in an apperceived perfect
community. (p. 385)
This definition of Adlerian spirituality prioritizes movement, unity, community, and striving as
central features of spirituality. Individual Psychology empowers clients to become active agents
in their own lives in concert with a personal understanding of a spiritual presence.
With an introduction to the creative force, life force, and striving to overcome and a
context for a personal, dialogical, and Adlerian notion of spirituality, this project moves on to the
I-Thou relationship and its implications for the four stages of Adlerian therapy.
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Buber’s I and Thou2
Buber’s most influential work of I and Thou (1937/1958)3 laid out a construct for
dialogue and relationship between three entities: I, the Other, and the Eternal Thou. Friedman
(1960), Friedman (1983), Kramer (2003), Kramer (2012), Potok (1991), Scott (n.d.), and Zank
and Braiterman (2014) offered insights to the following summary of Buber I and Thou. Buber
saw his work as a primal imperative of human relationship and being. Buber’s early translations
of the legendary leader of the Hasidic movement, the Bal Shem Tov, provided the “seeds”
(p.112) of the dialogue between the “I” and “the eternal Thou”: “The legend is the myth of I and
Thou, of the caller and the called, the finite which enters into the infinite and the infinite which
has need of the finite” (Friedman, 1983, p. 112). God needs humans as much as humans need
God remains a foundational tenet of Judaism (Friedman, 1983). For Buber, finite humans need
infinite God in a movement from primal dualism to unified whole being and connection with
Him. Buber also asserted “the free will of the whole man in dialogue and the arbitrariness of the
man who does not stand in living mutuality” (Friedman, 1983, p. 114). Here Buber drew a
contrast between those who brought to the dialogue their whole being as opposed to those who
brought only the intellect.
The I-It and the I-Thou reduced existence to three relational domains: persons, nature,
(i.e., trees, animals), and the divine. In the I-Thou domain, the relationship between persons,
2 From this point forward, this project italicizes the words It and Thou when mentioned apart
from the two words I-It and I-Thou to preserve the artistic and spiritual integrity of Buber’s
original printing and recognition of the word as the divine, higher power, God, creator, etc. 3 Buber originally published I and Thou in German in 1923. Ronald Gregory Smith first
translated Buber’s work into English in 1937. Buber published a second edition in 1958 with a
series of translation corrections and a postscript. Walter Kaufman also completed a translation
of I and Thou into English in 1970. This project draws on the 1958 edition of I and Thou as
translated by Ronald Gregory Smith.
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between person and animate object, or between person and God encounters “one whole unique
entity with another . . . such that it is known without being subsumed by another” (Scott, n. d.,
para. 22). The I-Thou centers on presence and confirmation of each participant by the other in
dialogue and meets in unity, wholeness, and mutuality. The I-It uses, categorizes, classifies,
experiences, observes, manipulates, institutionalizes, and objectifies the other in the dialogue. In
I-It, the person not only turns away from the other, he or she turns away from his or herself.
Humans move between the two positions of I-It and I-Thou. Buber stated that everyone must
encounter the I-It and I-Thou. One cannot live in I-It or I-Thou exclusively nor would it be
desirable. One must complete life tasks that in many cases require engagement with people,
nature, and things in I-It relations.
In the I-Thou relationship, Buber identified relationship between persons and between
“an ‘I’ engaging a ‘Thou’ – [as] a unity achieved though the meeting of man and God in
relation . . . man in full relation to another” where each gives to the essential being of the other
with “compassion,” “trust,” “respect,” and “love” (Potok, 1991, p. xii). In I-It relations, the
encounter occurred between individuals. Person, to Buber, connoted the divine and human
uniqueness and wholeness of a person whose uniqueness and wholeness is only realized in the
mutual meeting of another’s uniqueness and wholeness in true dialogue. The Thou (aka God) is
realized in the between space of the meeting between two persons in their wholeness and
uniqueness. The I-Thou also requires a mutual concern for the other. For Buber, the teacher-
student relationship could not engage in true I-Thou relationship. The student would have to be
equally invested or concerned about the teacher in a mutual way that the teacher holds concern
and investment in the student. In this example, the student-teacher relationship extends into the
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I-It relational construct where one is using or experiencing the other rather than being in
presence of the other.
In later essays, Buber expanded his I-Thou dialogical relationships to encompass
movement and direction. Two persons bring their wholeness into the I-Thou relationship and,
through distance and movement, maintain their individuated presence while at the same time
developing a fuller wholeness in contact with the other. One is only truly whole in the presence
of another. One becomes more of his or herself in dialogue with the uniqueness and wholeness
of the other. The dynamic is mutual and reciprocal.
The Thou. The I-Thou resides in dialogue between person and person, and person and
spirit, and extends to animals and artistic endeavors whenever the dialogue encompasses the
mutuality and inclusion of the uniqueness and wholeness of the other. Under this umbrella,
Buber included areas of study and investigation, when mutual dialogue occurs with a living text
such as scripture.
In dialogue with spirit, Buber offered a number ways for the Thou to appear in what he
termed the “primal phenomenon” (Scott, n. d., p. 104). In connection with the Thou “every
ought vanishes in unconditioned being. . . Duty and obligation are rendered only to the stranger;
we are drawn to and full of love for the intimate person” (Buber, 1937/1958, p. 103). At this
point, such things as judgment, laws, rules, and dictates no longer hold sway over the person, but
the person resides in pure being. At times, in the moment of the Thou, humans take in the Thou
as a “breath” as in a “wrestling bout” in which “it happens” (p. 104). On the other side of the
happening, the man or woman has grown beyond his or her previous self; he or she “no longer
questions the meaning of life” nor does it require an uncovering of the meaning and he or she
becomes a more realized being (Buber, 1937/1958).
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I-thou relationship and therapy. Nanda (2006) contended that therapy in the I-Thou
relationship engages the therapist in presence and in the confirmation and inclusion of the
uniqueness and wholeness of the client. At the same time, the I-Thou requires an element of
mutuality and reciprocity. Under these conditions, the client’s “self emerges in ‘dialogue’ with
the other where the focus is not on technique [or the ends] . . . but, rather what takes place
between the therapist and the client” (p. 345). In the process, the client not only changes, but so
does the therapist. The authentic I-Thou encounter realizes “fluidity” (p. 349) in the exchange
between therapist and client and the unlimited possibilities for the becoming of more whole for
both.
As noted by Nanda (2006), Buber challenged the claim that an authentic I-Thou
relationship can occur in therapy. Nanda (2006), drawing from others in the psychotherapy field,
asserted that therapist self-disclosure done with attention to the client’s needs and preferences,
stage of therapy, and status of the client-therapist relationship offered a way to move towards the
mutuality and reciprocity of the I-Thou relationship.
If therapy does not extend beyond an exploration of the social self of the client to the
uniqueness of the client, the therapy may remain in the I-It relation never engaging the I-Thou
dynamic of “direct, mutual, present, and open” dialogue (Nanda, 2006, p. 345). Furthermore, in
therapy, the therapist need not lose his or her sense of self and separateness in the I-Thou
relationship as long as the distance between the therapist and client is still “maintained” (p. 345).
In mutual relation, attunement ensues allowing the client to more easily respond to the other with
an unfolding of his or her true self. This type of therapist-client interaction runs counter to the
medical model of psychiatric-patient relationship.
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Therapist training, technical skill, knowledge, experience and observation, and analytical
and assessment abilities remain integral to achieve client goals; however, these are the I-It of the
therapy encounter. When the therapist responds to the client with preconceived categories,
groupings, classes, types, and classifications, again he or she has accessed the I-It of therapy
(Mutter & Neves, 2010). As Buber indicated, one cannot inhabit only I-Thou or I-It relations.
We move between and unify the two into our being through the Thou; however, it is the I-Thou
relationship that establishes the grounds of trust and safety between client and therapist that in
turn open the way for I-It interventions.
Intersubjectivity, I-thou, and therapy. The I and Thou engages the interhuman
encounter of intersubjectivity and mutuality in the two word pairs I-It and I-Thou. I-Thou
relations are dialogical and I-It relations are monological. According to Mutter and Neves
(2010), intersubjectivity occurs when client and therapist call on their subjectivities in an
interplay that becomes another resource for therapy. The I-Thou and I-It relationship subsumes
one’s subject and subjectivity and becomes another way to develop dialogue of mutuality and
reciprocity between the therapist and client.
Unlike other traditional therapy modes, intersubjectivity does not discount the therapist’s
subjectivity nor discourages its use. It aligns with Buber’s differentiation of I-It and I-Thou
relations towards genuine meeting. In I-Thou relationship, meeting between persons transcends
subject-subject relations: "In subjectivity the spiritual substance of the person matures . . . in
solidarity of connexion and of separation . . . the fuller its sharing the more real it becomes"
(Buber, 1937/1958, p. 67-68). With subjectivity, a therapist distinguishes where he or she begins
and ends in kind with the client. Keeping this in mind allows a therapist with continuous self-
awareness and ongoing work on himself or herself to happen upon subjectivity combined with
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his or her professional and personal experience during moments of therapy. Mutter and Neves
(2010) and Reardon (n.d.) argued that the subjectivities of therapist and client interact with each
other making it impossible to engage in objective forms of therapy; however, Buber might
contend an I-It relationship does exactly this; however, acknowledging that the therapist and
client enter into dialogue with separate subjectivities permits subject-subject relations to surface.
This taps into Buber’s I-Thou (Mutter & Neves, 2010).
Reardon (n.d.) asserted subjectivity consists of a therapist’s claiming and understanding
his or her feelings of inferiority as a way to a fuller understanding and acceptance of self. The
ability to more fully tap into who one is as a person allows a therapist to be more fully real with
clients. Subjectivity and feelings of inferiority include, but are not limited to, one’s mistaken